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2010 Funerals

 

2012 Funerals

Nancy Boccia

Jerry Gatta

Leroy Stabile

Anthony N. DeMaiolo Sr.

Russell Gregory

Sandy Ulishney

Michael Infante

Thomas Tedesco

Eugene Rose

2011 Funerals

Ted Pappas

Josephine Eleanor Schuller

Mildred "Millie" Marchese

Louise Liste

Margaret Matthews

Ann S Pellino

Ann B Regalia

Andrew "Andy" Kieltsch

William "Willie" Marchese

Daniel Gillen

Lola DeMatthews

Allan P Sycasure

Marie Ciminero

John Sherock

Leroy Stabile

Dorothy C Packo

Lorraine A Marrara

Tina Baragona

John C Zubyk

Robert J Lyell Sr

Ann Marie Nuzzi

Maxine Barritt

William E Fisher Jr

Mary Jacola

William A Wolfe

Adeline L. Frient

Sandra Nicastro

Julia DeFiore

Raymond Leclerc

Audrey Kristoff

Ada DeMare

Mary F Roberts

William H Miller

Karen Violette

Nick Patrone

Donald M Toy

Sarah A DeLuca

Louise R Maffei

Carole Ladd

James J Miranda

Peter Mollica

Elvira Macali

Emil "Kris" Kristoff

Stella Green

Marguerite Virostko

JoAnn Kearney

Rose Monteforte

Michael "Mugsy" Malvasi

James Infante

George A. Datchuk

Edward J. Furlong

Thomas DiCintio

Rosemarie A. Marino

Karen Burgy

Bruce Estes

Albert James Cantola

Geraldine Stabile

Mary Nardo

Geraldine Nuzzi

Thomas Elliot

William N. Aulet

Josephine Stabile

Carmel Reed

Maria Maddamma

Epifania Barberi Fallo

Robert Stabile

Betty Albu

Nicholas Windiuk

Jonathan Scarnecchia

Danny DeChristofaro

Angelo Brunelli

Betty Calderone

Theresa Mauro

Carmel Tricomi

Constantino Scerbo

2012 Funerals

 

Eugene Rose 1929-2012

Thomas Tedesco 1971-2012

Michael Infante 1927-2012

Sandy Ulinshney 1960-2012

Russell Gregory 1932-2012

Anthony N. DeMaiolo Sr. 1921-2012

Leroy Stabile 1916-2012

Jerry Gatta 1933-2012

Nancy Boccia 1915-2011

2011 Funerals

 

Constantino Scerbo 1923-2011

Carmel Tricomi 1921-2011

Theresa Mauro 1920-2011

Betty Calderone 1923-2011

Angelo Brunelli 1923-2011

Danny DeChristofaro 1929-2011

Nicholas Windiuk 1928-2011

Jonathan Scarnecchia 1986-2011

Betty Albu 1925-2011

Born:  Sept. 5, 1925    Died:  November 7, 2011   Funeral:  November 12, 2011

Gospel:  Matthew 25:31-46

 

Homily:

            On behalf of the members of Our Lady of Mount Carmel Parish, I extend condolences to everyone closest to Betty.  You are in our prayers.  She was a longtime and loyal member of this parish.  Although I did not have the pleasure of knowing her during the years she came here, I did enjoy visiting with her at the Humility of Mary Humility House in Austintown several times and we enjoyed praying together.

          For twenty years, Betty worked as a pediatric nurse at Trumbull Memorial Hospital before retiring thirty two years ago.  We give thanks for the many ways she touched so many lives in her work.  People like Betty give special meaning to the Gospel message we heard from the Book of Matthew this morning.  Jesus said that when we visit the sick or do any kindness to others whatsoever, we do this to the Lord Himself.  Her outreach to sick children was a valuable service to the community and helped bring the message of compassion to others in a special way.

          Betty’s children, grandchildren, in-laws, and great-grandchildren will remember how she enjoyed spending time with family members.  As time goes on, you will recall the many ways she influenced your lives as a mother and grandmother, and we give thanks to the Lord for the many ways she reflected the love of the Lord.

          Betty was called home to be with the Lord during the month of November, a month when the Church celebrates the Feast of All Souls and lovingly remembers those who have gone before us in faith.

          As we lift Betty in prayer, we trust in the Lord who is able to do far more than we could ever imagine doing.

          Because Betty’s life was joined to the life of Jesus Christ in Baptism, we trust that she rejoices in his presence forever.  We trust that she is with her husband Nick, with her beloved daughter Rebecca whom she missed so much since Becky’s unexpected passing more than four years ago, with her brother Richard and sister Jean and so many other people of faith who have completed life’s journeys.

          You remember how Betty used to be so diligent in cleaning the walls and floors of her home. Now we trust that Betty has been cleansed from all sins and is made new in the love of the Lord that lasts forever.

          May the Lord welcome Betty to the company of the saints, console us in our loss, and strengthen us in His service all our days. 

 

Robert Stabile 1931-2011

Born:  July 12, 1931   Died:  November 5, 2011   Funeral:  November 8, 2011

Scriptures:  Ecclesiastes 3:1-8   1 Corinthians 13:4-7, 13   John 15:9-12

 

Homily:

            The Scriptures tell us that there is a time for just about everything.

          We are sad to realize that in one sense, the time has come to say goodbye to Bob.  His time among us was so very special and we thank the Lord for this.

          He was known as the sunshine of the lives of his brothers and sisters.  His time among them always brought joy.  As the years passed the roles reversed with them concerning who would go to whom for help.  Looking back, this is truly time for us all to realize what a blessing it is to have family members who can rely on each other.

          The time of Bob’s life can be described as a zest for life.  There were so many times he just loved to travel.  What about his beloved wife Alma’s esteem for traveling?  We could say it was not quite as strong. 

          Regardless, our time has come to give thanks for the varieties of wonderful times, be they spent at home, on fabulous vacations, or precious quality time spent going for Sunday afternoon rides the way people used to go for rides. 

          And now, we turn to the Lord as we realize that the time for the journeys has come to a conclusion. 

          But the time to know that love lasts forever has just begun.

          Our readings tell us that there is time for love.  How Jesus told His disciples to remain in His love!  How Bob’s love touched our hearts in a myriad of ways:  Teasing Alma time and again; trying his best to go to the activities of his children and grandchildren; always being there for brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces, great-nephews, great nieces, in-laws, members of the extended family, neighbors, and friends.   
His love was expressed in the playfulness of a quick, funny remark; and though the quick wit has been silenced by the demands of suffering and death, the afterglow of love continues to radiate in our memories, in our hearts, and in our prayers.

          The time to smile about memories has not ended.  It never will.  You’ll think about Bob watching cooking shows as Alma watched baseball games. 

          You’ll remember the many trips he made to the grocery store, never to be outdone when it came to taking advantage of a bargain.

I’ll remember how Bob loved to come to Mass and pray, always greeting me with a “How ya doin’, buddy?”

          We heard the message of Saint Paul.  How faith, hope, and love are gifts that last forever.  How love is the most excellent gift.

          We ponder Bob’s life and the depths of our being resonate the truth of  this message. 

          For Bob’s faith was continues to inspire us.  This was a man who never ceased to give thanks to Alma and everyone else who reached out to him during his illness.

          And the hope he gave forth was never empty or shallow – Bob was much more concerned with how his visitors were doing than with his own needs, for it seems that in an unspoken way he trusted that the Lord would take care of him.

          We heard the message of love echoed time and again. “All I ask of you is forever to remember me as loving you.”

          Jesus spoke these words to those closest to Him.

          The song echoed this message a short time ago.

          Our memories of Bob assure us that he’d want us to remember him that way – full of faith, unwavering in hope, ever so radiant in love.

          Bob was loved so much and his love for others is beyond what words can describe.

          Our hearts are broken that he is no longer alive in our homes and adding so much to life by his presence as people knew it for more than eight decades.

          But our spirits are consoled that he suffers no more and is forever and fully caught up in the love of a Lord who promises new and everlasting life.

For every thing there is a season.  And the season to be grateful for love, appreciative of a life well-lived, ever inspired by memories of a special person and confident that he is with the Lord is a season that never ends.

 

Epifania Barberi Fallo

Died on November 1, 2011  ~  Funeral on November 4, 2011

Gospel:  John 15:9-12

 

Homily:

On behalf of everyone belonging to Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church, I extend condolences to Carmelo, Maria, and everyone closest to Epifania.  You are in our prayers.  Our prayers reach out to those unable to be with us in person today but who certainly join us in spirit.  In particular, we are mindful that we are joined in prayer with those in Italy.

How fitting it is to celebrate Mass together as we ponder Epifania’s life. 
How often she prayed novenas and attended Mass.  It was so important to her to pray the rosary with her family at night.  Everyone close to her knew that it was wise not to bother her when she was watching Mass on television.   In fact, when she arrived at her new destination on Christmas Day in 1955, soon after the train arrived here in Niles, she attended Mass.  That was how important her faith was to her!

Your lives will forever be enriched by how she found such joy in being a homemaker.  Epifania enjoyed gardening, flowers, cooking, baking and spending time with her family.  How wise it is top pray for each other as you know that you will miss her so very dearly.

You ponder how she was married for thirty-six years to Santo Fallo until the Lord called him home on November 20, 1975.  Epifania spent nearly thirty-six years as a widow since his death.  The Lord called her home on the Feast of All Saints.

In the Gospel chosen for this Mass of Christian Burial, Jesus teaches His disciples to remain in His love.  May the love of Christ live on in our hearts.  May this love touch our souls as we remember the kindness, hard work, and positive nature so characteristic of Epifania’s life.

May Jesus, who gave His life so lovingly and rose from the dead, keep us in His loving care and welcome Epifania to her eternal home.

 

Maria Maddamma 1925-2011

Born:  April 13, 1925    Died:  October 30, 2011 Aged:  86 Funeral:  November 3, 2011

 

Gospel:  John 6:1-13

 

Homily:

People are usually fascinated by stories about miracles.  We just heard the story of The Feeding of the Multitude.  With only fives loaves and a couple of fish, Jesus fed so many people.

What is the easiest way to define a miracle?  A miracle is a wonder or a marvel. It is something that makes us think, something that causes us to stand back and say “Now that’s amazing!”

When we ponder how the Lord worked through Maria’s life, we realize that a very special miracle has blessed our lives.

It was a life that was so very devout, so dedicated in her faith.  When we ponder how often so many people in the world scoff at things of faith and don’t make religion a very high priority, we realize that God spoke to us through Maria’s life and will continue to speak to us through our memories of her.

I’ve been told that when one of the sisters gave Maria Communion on the day she died, Maria smiled so sweetly and her appearance was practically radiant.  It is miraculous when someone prepares best of all for her death by years and years of setting high priority on reflecting the love of God, a love expressed in the ways she was a loving wife for Carmelo and a nurturing mother for her daughters Anna, Franca, and Marisa.  Her many grandchildren and great-grandchildren will remember how happy Maria was when her family surrounded her. You will continue to be blessed by memories of how she did everything with great detail and care. 

Just as Jesus fed the multitude in the Gospel, she fed you with pasta, bread, so many delicious foods, but most of all by her unselfish love and example of dedicated faith.

The greatest miracle of all is the resurrection of Jesus from the dead.  Maria was born on Easter Sunday in Italy.  Jesus gives Maria and all of us the hope that we too shall rise from the dead. Our prayers surround her as we trust that she has gone to be with her brother Carmine, her grandson Anthony, and so many other people who have been called home to the Lord before her eighty-six years of living in this world concluded on Sunday afternoon.

May Maria be welcomed by the Lord whom she loved so much.  And may our faith remind us that it is truly a miracle that not even death can bring an end to the love we have for others, and the love they have for us.

 

Carmel Reed 1922-2011

Born: July 12, 1922 Died: October 8, 2011 Age: 8 Memorial Mass: October 29, 2011

Readings: Isaiah 25:6-9 * 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 * John 14:1-6

Homily:
Carol and James, I know that your mother was a part of this parish for many years. She was baptized at this parish on September 10, 1922 by Father Santoro and celebrated the Sacrament of Confirmation here when Bishop Joseph Schrembs visited this parish on May 8, 1931.
Some of the memories that were shared by family will be shared by me following the Prayer After Communion. I want you to know that the people of this parish lift up in prayer Carmel, you and everyone touched by her life.
The Scripture Readings chosen for this Memorial Mass will fill us with hope as we celebrate Carmel's life.
In our First Reading, the Prophet Isaiah describes a glorious feast with rich food and choice, delicious wines. Our faith assures us that Carmel has been invited to this kind of feast. How wonderful it is that our God enables us to remember wonderful meals shared with Carmel, and all the more wonderful it is that the Lord is able to give Carmel a share in a feast that lasts forever. It is our sincere hope that she is reunited with her mother Angelina, her father James, sisters and brothers, her husband John Reed and people of faith who were called to be with the Lord.
Our Second Reading features the words of St. Paul reminding us to console one another with the message that Jesus died and rose to new life, and enables those
who have passed to share in His resurrection. The one you loved so dearly and whose love for you was so strong is with Jesus forever. You’ll think about the ways she visited people in the neighborhood, how she did so many kind deeds, admired the roses that grew in her garden, enjoyed the company of children and loved to sing; Yes, as you remember these things, know that she is caught up forever in the love of a God who cares beyond what we can even begin to imagine.
How blessed we are to hear the part of John’s Gospel where Jesus told us that He has gone to prepare a place for people of faith. You know that there will always be a place in your heart for the memories she gave you. You’ll often think about Carmel’s travels to Hawaii.
You’ll remember how she shared her treasured photo albums with others allowing her to relive the memories. How she sang Somewhere Over the Rainbow, Slow boat to China, and enjoyed the music of Lawrence Welk and said "Nobody does it like Lawrence!"
Yes, ponder the simple, beautiful, child-like way she left a written reminder concerning the attitude of gratitude that permeated her heart when she wrote:
“Thank you (Lord) for the world so sweet, thank you for the things we eat, thank you for the birds that sing, thank you God for everything.”
Yes, you know that there will always be a place in your heart for the memories she gave you. And you know that the Lord has prepared a place for Carmel.
I’ve been told that not too long ago, Carmel dreamed about Jesus teaching her about the stars. The Scriptures tell us that those who are in God’s everlasting care shine ever so brightly. While sitting in her favorite chair by the kitchen window looking up into the night sky there was only 1 brilliant Sparkling Star. She exclaimed" "Holy God!". Carmel described a vision in which she said she saw her departed husband. When asked, What is he doing? She replied "Eating a Sandwich!"
Now we give thanks for the supreme holiness of the Lord that was expressed in so many ways in Carmel’s life, a holiness that lives on in the memories you share.
Our hearts join Carmel in her prayer: “Thank you, God, for everything.” And we trust that the place the Lord has prepared for her shines ever so brightly with Carmel’s radiant love.

 

Josephine Stabile 1918-2011

Born: May 1, 1918 Died: October 22, 2011 Funeral: October 26, 2011

 

Gospel: John 15:9-12

 

Homily:

We remember that Jesus loved us by His self-giving death. And despite this death, we celebrate because we believe Christ continues to dwell among us. We believe that we will see the Lord when He comes in His glory. We remember, we celebrate, we believe. Such is the message of hope that we will sing together a short time from now.

As we gather to remember Josephine’s life, we celebrate her close connection with the Lord. We thank God for the life of this special lady who spent her ninety-three years here in this community, growing up on Pratt Street, then living for such a long time on Robbins Avenue.

Father Nicola Santoro baptized her as Giuseppina Spano on May 4, 1918, on just the fourth day of her life. The white cloth covering Josephine’s casket is a symbol of her Baptism, a symbol of the fact that her life was joined to Christ’s life, death, and rising from the dead.

We call to mind that this church was where she and Liborio “Leroy” exchanged wedding vows in 1938.

For so many years Jo enjoyed baking, making meatballs, canning, and gardening. Her daughter Rose Vince, sister Rose Buzzacco, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, nieces, nephews, and so many family members will treasure memories of her apple squares and delicious sauce.

In the Scriptures, one of the words for remember means so much more than just looking back with fondness on something that happened long ago. When Jesus told us to do what He did at the Last Supper in remembrance of Him, He meant that by remembering He would truly become present among us.

As we remember the many ways Josephine touched our lives, the love of God will really and truly permeate our hearts.

We’ll be inspired by thoughts of how Jo smiled even when she wasn’t feeling well.

We’ll be touched by the positive attitude she maintained so very often. Josephine’s very approachable demeanor will lead us to remember the wisdom she shared in so many conversations.

Her good sense of humor and enjoyment of laughter will bring cheer to us when something funny reminds us of her.

Josephine taught you one of the most important things in life – to be grateful for the gift of a new day, as she often praised God for guiding her through the challenges she faced.

Now that Jo has been delivered from the challenges she faced due to recent declining health, we give thanks for the gift of new life Jesus promises. The candle near her casket reminds us that Christ is our Light even through the darkest times. We trust in the Lord’s light and His promise of salvation every time we remember Josephine’s goodness. The very goodness of God will be within us and among us whenever Josephine comes to mind.

The Lord is our light and our salvation. We heard the message sung in the 27th Psalm. God delivers us from all our fears and promises that people of faith will dwell in His house forever.

Even as we will dearly miss Josephine in our earthly home, we remember the promises of the Lord and we trust in the never-ending quality of His love.

 

William N. Aulet 1922-2011

Thomas Elliot 1960-2011

Geraldine Nuzzi 1939-2011

Mary Nardo 1920-2011

Geraldine Stabile 1922-2011

Albert James Cantola 1922-2011

Bruce Estes 1967-2011

Born: January 27, 1967 Died: September 26, 2011 Funeral: September 30, 2011

 

Readings: Wisdom 3:1-9 1 John 3:1-2 John 14:6-14

 

Homily:

The words to the Gospel resound in our minds and our hearts. Jesus has gone to prepare a place for people of faith. In His Father’s house, there are many dwelling places. Otherwise, why would He have told us that He has gone to prepare a place for us, and that Jesus would come back and take us with Him.

As important as our faith is today, and in light of the pain so many experience in the loss of this dear forty-four year old husband, father, nephew, brother, uncle, cousin, dear relative and friend, we know there is such a therapeutic value in reminding ourselves that the Lord touched so many lives when Bruce made his dwelling place with us.

Ponder the message from our Second Reading today. The author of the sacred text reminds us that we are children of God, and what we shall later be has not yet come to light.

There is something so precious about remembering Bruce as a child of God, for that is what he was, and that is what we are called to be.

Remember the many qualities in Bruce’s life that were child-like in a good sense. This large and strong man cried when his daughters were born. I’ve been told that he looked like the lead duck on a camping trip when he carried towels and soap on a rope as he led his daughters to get cleaned up on one of the many camping trips those close to Bruce enjoyed.

You give thanks for how Bruce touched so many lives as a member of the Warren Italian American Heritage Festival Committee, and by coaching so many youngsters who played for the Niles Little Red Dragons and for Frank Ohl Middle School in Austintown.

You remember the child-like enthusiasm he showed riding four-wheelers.

Chris, Emily and Morgan will never forget how he’d eat all of the cookies before the girls would get home from school.

Remember how Bruce’s presence at girls soccer games and cross country meets was thoroughly appreciated.

You’ll also remember how he sang and loved to make the friends of his daughters laugh. Bruce wanted to be liked by kids. The truth is, he wasn’t merely liked. He was loved!

His cousins and so many guys will forever hold dear the hours and hours and hours they spent talking with Bruce. When you gather in the future, keep in mind that Bruce’s love and the love of the Lord is in your midst.

Bruce was at the center of your family activities, and even by his absence in the future his presence will be keenly felt and his love for you and your love for him will live on.

All of us know how difficult the past thirteen months have been. I know that Chris, Emily, and Morgan want to express their heartfelt gratitude for the many ways so many have reached out to Bruce during his illness and for how so many have reached out to them in all these struggles.

God’s Word tells us that the souls of the just are in the hand of God. No more torment shall touch them.

When we find ourselves wide awake and are tormented by the reality of Bruce’s passing, may the Lord gently remind us that Bruce is at peace. Let the Lord come to us in the silence. Let the Lord assure us that love never ends.

Bruce has followed Jesus, who leads us where we hope to go.

Bruce is with Jesus, who is the Truth, and in such amazing truth reminds us that we are children of God and we hope to be forever transformed into His likeness, for Christ is our Life. Jesus has risen from the dead and promises that we may rise with Him if we place our faith in Him when our hearts are most troubled.

Remember the love and the laughter.

Remember how Bruce’s casket was blessed with Holy Water near the beginning of this Mass of Christian Burial. It reminds us of our connection with Jesus that began when we were baptized. The refreshment Jesus brings is even more refreshing than the rinsing of water near the campsites, the candle near his casket reminds us that the Light of Christ shines through the loving support of others who care even in our darkest hours. No more torment shall touch Bruce. He is at peace. He has become a child of God beyond what we could ever imagine. And if we place our deepest trust in the Lord, we shall see Bruce and enjoy his goodness again.

 

Karen Burgy 1939-2011

Born: October 23, 1939 Died: Sept. 19, 2011 Aged: 71

 

Funeral: September 23, 2011

 

Readings: Wisdom 3:1-9 * parts of Psalm 90 * Revelation 14:13 * Mark 10:13-16

 

Homily:

I extend my condolences to everyone closest to Karen. Please be assured that you are in our thoughts & prayers.

We rely on God’s Word and the support of good and caring people to help us through this time of grief.

Let us ponder the messages we heard from the Bible a few moments ago.

The Reading from the Book of Wisdom assures us that the just are in the hands of God. Pondering Karen’s struggles since she went to Bradfield at the Ridge in early August, we give thanks to the Lord who welcomes her to His care and alleviates her suffering.

I’ve been told that Karen had a devotion to St. Ann. She believed that the saints have compassion on those afflicted with troubles. On a prayer found among Karen’s belongings, Karen asked that some day she may obtain the grace to behold her God face to face and praise the Lord in the company of all the saints. Now we trust that all of the saints in God’s heavenly Kingdom welcome Karen to everlasting joy.

Karen touched the lives of so many elementary students in her teaching career. That is why we chose the Gospel story that featured Jesus welcoming children and blessing them. She was a blessing for children who had learning disabilities. She was employed more than thirty years at Niles City Schools and had also taught at North Jackson and St. Stephen Schools. God’s Word as we heard from the Book of Revelation tells us that the dead are blessed, for God gives them rest from their labors and their good works accompany them. May the goodness Karen imparted upon so many children for so many years continue to bear fruit in a world that needs goodness so very dearly.

We think about the many books Karen read and the mystery movies she watched; we give thanks for the ways she simply enjoyed spending time with family members. You also recall how she enjoyed knitting and crocheting. (I am sure some of you still have items she made for you.) You think about the time she served as the Treasurer of the local Teacher’s Union, and was an avid member of the Niles Band Boosters serving in several positions. We also give thanks for the ways she wanted to improve our community by being part of the Welcome Wagon, participating in Meals on Wheels, and her membership on the Niles Beautification Commission. The verses we heard from the 90th Psalm remind us that life passes so very quickly and that we should pray for the grace to count our days aright so that we may gain wisdom of heart.

May the Lord in His infinite wisdom comfort us in our sorrows, fill us with the grace of His presence, and teach us to serve His people and build better communities as Karen tried to do.

May the Lord prosper the work of our hands and assure us of His unconditional love.

 

Rosemarie A. Marino 1933-2011

Born: May 28, 1933 Died: September 16, 2011 Aged: 78 Funeral: September 20, 2011

 

Gospel: Matthew 6:26-34

 

Homily:

It has been a little less than ten months since Rosemarie’s beloved husband, Leo “Happ” Marino, was called home to be with the Lord.

With Rosemarie’s passing on Friday with her family by her side, we trust that the Lord enables Leo and Rosemarie to be together in God’s kingdom forever.

While planning today’s funeral for Rosemarie, I reviewed the Gospel reading that was proclaimed at her husband’s funeral last November and I decided it would be inspirational to proclaim it again this morning.

We heard the Lord tell us not to let worry weigh us down. Ponder how Rosemarie was strong in faith and how she volunteered to help hospice patients years ago. We need not worry about whether or not the Lord knows her, for He was the One who enabled her goodness to be shared.

Trusting in a loving and merciful God assures us that Rosemarie is in His care now. God saw her faith and the care she extended to those in need. We need not worry about her well-being.

I’ve been told that Rosemarie admired the writings of Saint Paul. The message we heard from Matthew’s Gospel this morning ties in very well with the message Saint Paul imparted to his friends in his Letter to the Romans that we are not the masters of our lives – God is the Master of our lives!

Rosemarie and “Happ” made the most out of life when they were able to. Their love for their children Leo and Karen, for their grandchildren and great-grandchildren, and for all their family members was strong. They taught you the value of hard work and the precious nature of sharing joys together.

Give thanks to God when you think about Rosemarie preparing you favorite foods in the kitchen. Express gratitude to the Lord when you remember how she and “Happ” used to dance together. Smile when you recall how she cared for her garden, sewed, watched birds, read books, and enjoyed music. Pray for the grace to remember her favorite things, for she is now truly at peace and her sufferings have ended.

We have gathered to express our belief in a God who provides for us. Ponder the gift of wonderful people in your lives, and we will know that God has blessed our lives through the lives of people like “Happ” and Rosemarie.

The passing of a loved one calls us to ponder our belief in a God who loves us. His love has prepared a place for Rosemarie, a place where, we trust, “Happ” greets the love of his life with great joy.

We are convinced that the Lord is with us in each and every struggle we face. God knows that the passing of parents, grandparents, a dear sibling, indeed -- any close family member or friend brings the pain of grief to our lives.

May our hearts know that in His goodness, the Lord shall see us through. He will remind us that Rosemarie, remembered by you as a wonderful wife, a loving and nurturing mother, a grandmother who was caring and fun, is always in our hearts and forever in the care of our God.

 

Thomas DiCintio 1924-2011

Born: January 25, 1924 Died: September 15, 2011 Aged: 87

 

Funeral: September 17, 2011 (PRIVATE)

 

Readings: Wisdom 3:1-9 * Psalm 27 * John 14:1-6

 

Homily:

Our Psalm this morning reminds us that the Lord is our light and our salvation. During this difficult time, we entrust all of our cares and all of our fears about the future to the Lord. We trust that His light will show us the way and He will keep us in His care and calm our fears.

We pray in a special way for Stella with whom Tom shared more than six decades of marriage. Stella, know that all of us support you very prayerfully.

Tom will be dearly missed by his son Thomas, daughters Gail, Debbie, and Michelle, seventeen grandchildren and five great-grandchildren. You and everyone close to you are in our prayers today. I have been told that Tom touched your lives as a very unselfish man. He was constantly present for his family and took care of you very well.

Many were the times you trusted in his wisdom. His children and grandchildren will remember his advice, and will miss him dearly each and every time they would like to turn to him for advice in the future.

His determination taught so many life lessons. Tom’s parents died when he was very young – only seven years old. His sisters and brothers brought him up.

He always wanted a family with strong values, and his legacy will remain forever with those close to him.

You’ll remember the debates about politics and the way he lovingly welcomed people who enjoyed being with him at his home.

The Scriptures this morning remind us that the souls of the just are in God’s care. Jesus promises to provide a home for people of faith.

As you will dearly miss Tom’s presence in your home, trust that the Lord has invited Tom to be at home with God. Know that Jesus is our way, truth, and life. Have faith in Him and allow His love to touch your hearts during this time of sorrow, memories, and thanksgiving for Tom’s life.

May the Lord be at our side all our days and give us the peace this world and our own efforts cannot give.

 

Edward J. Furlong 1946 -2011

Born: August 12, 1946 Died: September 14, 2011 Aged: 65 Funeral: September 17, 2011

 

Readings: Isaiah 25:6-9 Psalm 23 Revelation 14:13 John 15:9. 11-13

Homily:

On behalf of the people of Our Lady of Mt. Carmel Church, I extend my condolences to everyone close to Ed. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Marie, we pray for you as you reflect about the nearly forty-four years of marriage you shared with Ed. You exchanged your marriage vows with him at Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church in the presence of Father Oresete Cerbara and family members and friends. Today we bring our assurances of support during a very difficult time.

When I met with Marie, her sons Eddie and Steven, and her daughter Tracey on Thursday afternoon, we chose the Scripture readings that were proclaimed at this service.

We remembered happier and wonderful times as we listened to the reading from the Book of the Prophet Isaiah. The reading speaks about a celebration God has in mind for His redeemed people. We heard about delicious food and the wonderful ways God provides for His people. We are thankful for the many ways Ed provided for his family as a husband, father, and grandfather. We trust that the Lord will keep His promise to destroy death. We place our faith in a God who is able to save us even after all human efforts to save have been exhausted.

You ponder the fact that Ed shared in the Sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick and responded to prayers, making the Sign of the Cross when the priest visited him at the Cleveland Clinic. The Lord in His mercy will enable you to take great comfort in the truth that God leads us where we need to go. As the twenty-third Psalm reminds us, the Lord is our Shepherd who protects us from harm even when we are in the shadow of death.

You heard the reading from the Book of Revelation that tells us that those who die in the Lord are blessed; they find rest from their labors and their good works accompany them.

How often you will remember the way Ed worked hard as a boiler operator at Thomas Steel Strip in Warren for 40 years prior to his retirement in 2006. God gives him rest from his labors!

How often you will recall his many good works. Ed was a caring husband and father who coached baseball, was always present for the activities of his children, made sure there was ice cream available for his seven grandchildren, and was blessed with many friends and was a blessing for them.

His sisters Darlene, Dorothy, and Carolyn along with all of Ed’s in-laws will dearly miss Ed as well, and all of us pray that the Lord will welcome Ed to God’s everlasting care.

When a loved one passes from this life, all of us are challenged to ponder what matters most of all in life.

The Lord tells us in such a beautiful way in the Gospel story we heard from the 15th Chapter of the Book of John. Jesus was gathered with His closest friends the night before He died. What did He tell them matters most of all? The Lord told them to remain in His love.

You know that God’s love touched you in so many ways through Ed’s life. His passing touched the life of those who cared for him at the Cleveland Clinic, too. I’ve been told that his doctor phoned the family to extend condolences. We usually don’t hear of doctors an hour and a half away from here doing such things. But the gesture was appreciated, as was all of the care.

Jesus laid down His life for those He loved. He laid down His life for Ed, and for each and every one of us.

Now we thank the Lord for Ed’s life and trust that the Lord can do what we could not do: Grant Ed the gift of new life forever.

May we remain in the love of the Lord, in the spirit of Ed’s unselfish love, and be given the strength and love we need by sharing these gifts with each other all our days.

 

George A. Datchuk 1961-2011

Born: January 21, 1961 Died: August 18, 2011 Memorial Mass: September 10, 2011

 

Readings: Wisdom 3:1-9, sung version of Psalm 23, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, and John 14:1-6.

 

Homily:

On behalf of all of us here at Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church, I extend my condolences to Michael, Rosemary, and everyone close to George. You have been in our thoughts and prayers since we learned of George’s unexpected death. We assure you of our continual support.

We know that there are no explanations for many thing that happen, and certainly it is not for us to attempt to explain why George and his brothers died so unexpectedly during recent years.

When our own words are so very limited, we know it is wise to depend on God’s Word. That is why we chose Scripture Readings and proclaimed them a few moments ago. It is our prayer that these Readings draw us closer to the Lord and offer a measure of consolation.

Our First Reading reminds us that the souls of the just are in the hand of God. This dear man named George, who died much too soon in our way of looking at things, is forever in God’s care. No torment shall touch him. The struggles with dizziness that were just beginning in his life have no more power over him. George, who loved the outdoors and really liked to go fishing, is in God’s care forever.

Michael and Rosemary remember how George appreciated receiving care packages where he lived in LeGrand, Oregon. You have heard him tell you that he loved you and you can be sure that even though the very painful loss of a loved one brings so many challenges to us, love never ends.

You heard how St. Paul told us that there is no end to faith, hope, and love. You believe in your hearts that love is the greatest gift of all. We pray that the love of God will be with us every moment of our lives, and that it extends even beyond this life. We have assurance from the Lord concerning the everlasting nature of love.

Jesus spoke to us in today’s Gospel. He told us to place our faith in Him. He assured us that He is the way, the truth, and the life. He tells us that He has gone to prepare a place for people of faith, and it is our fervent prayer that George has accepted the invitation to be with the Lord forever.

The 23rd Psalm tells us that the Lord is our Shepherd. He guides us where we need to go. His love and protection never cease. He prepares a banquet for us even as the shadow of death invades our lives.

May Jesus the Good Shepherd guide George to a place with God forever.

May this Lord in whom we place our trust bring us comfort, closeness, and assurances of love. May He fill us with hope all our days.

We have come together to be nourished at the table of the Lord. May Christ feed us with strength in facing every challenge, and gently hold us close to Himself.

 

James Infante, 1935-2011

Born: April 22, 1935 Died: August 15, 2011 Age: 76 Funerals: August 18, 2011

 

Gospel: John 12:23-24, 26

 

Homily:

Times like this reminds us of how very important support from family members and friends truly is. My thinking along these lines was reaffirmed at the funeral home yesterday when I saw pictures of Jamesey gathered with family members during happier and healthier times.

So many people came to offer support during this difficult time that has followed years of ailments for your loved one.

You gathered to tell stories about so many memories. I’m sure you recall with great fondness vacations in Vegas and Disney World.

You think about the good times when James cooked.

Fourth of July celebrations were always remarkable thanks to the fireworks displays Jamesey set off.

One of the pictures displayed at the funeral home showed Jamesey operating the backhoe, something he really liked to do.

There was the Central Sealing jacket in the casket, along with reminders of his fanaticism for the University of Notre Dame and the New York Yankees.

As those closest to Jamesey ponder so much support from sharing memories with family and friends, I assure all of you closest to Jamesey of the support of this church family, too.

We gather in the church where so many special times in Jamesey’s life were celebrated.

This is where Father Joseph Saraceno baptized Jamesey on November 27, 1938.

This is where he shared in the Eucharist for the very first time on May 30, 1948.

When Bishop Emmet Walsh visited this church on October 23, 1950, James and his classmates celebrated the Sacrament of Confirmation.

James and the former Suntine DeGennaro exchanged wedding vows here in the presence of Father Nick Arioli on October 8, 1960.

It is here today that we listen to the words of Jesus in a context of faith, trusting in His promises.

The Lord told us that unless the grain of wheat falls to the earth and dies, it remains just a grain of wheat. But if it dies, it bears much fruit.

As followers of Jesus, we unite in prayer. We reaffirm our belief that James has followed Jesus through suffering and death and will be honored by Jesus who promises to let Jamesey’s life bear much fruit.

His life will bear fruit each time you remember how determined James was despite tremendous physical challenges for such a long time.

His life will bear fruit each and every time you know in your hearts that his love for you was real and continues even after his death, your love for him has been constant and true and also will not end.

As family members, friends, and members of this church family, we entrust Jamesey to the everlasting care of the Lord.

And we trust that the Lord will comfort us in our sorrows, make Jamesey whole in ways beyond what we can ever imagine, and fill us with hope that in God’s time people of faith will face no more suffering and rejoice in God’s presence forever.

 

Michael Malvasi, 1930-2011

Born: November 4, 1930 Died: August 13, 2011 Funeral: August 17, 2011

 

Gospel: John 14:1-6

 

Homily:

Ponder the love that has been surrounding us.

I think of the love of the family that surrounded Mugsy at the hospital as his life was drawing to a close. As Ann Marie will express later in this service when she shares Words of Remembrance about her father, that gathering was one of many examples of love that characterized Mugsy’s years among us. The love of God assures us that the bonds of love we form here on earth will last forever. Remember this everlasting love during our most difficult times.

Mugsy began his journey of faith here in this church when Father Nicola Santoro baptized him on December 14, 1930.

His faith was nourished further by his sharing in the Eucharist here from Father Joseph Saraceno on May 12, 1940. Exactly one week later, Mugsy and his classmates shared in the Sacrament of Confirmation when Bishop McFadden visited this parish.

Through the years, we enjoyed his prayerful presence among us when he sat right about there on the baptismal font side of the church. We trust that from his place with God now and forevermore, his prayers will guide and sustain us.

So many people expressed their love for Mugsy at the funeral home last evening. We saw so many flowers there, signs of appreciation for a man who touched many lives in many ways.

Mugsy’s esteem for being active in this community was brought out in his obituary as many recalled the days he operated the Rec Room in downtown Niles, his esteem for food highlighted in conversations about Jimmy Chieffo’s restaurant.

As some were conversing about Mugsy’s love for food, it occurred to me that the Lord has blessed us with faith that presents a beautiful image. Ponder a banquet that lasts forever. Imagine Mugsy feasting at God’s table, reunited with those he loved who preceded him in death. Be assured that the Lord forever strengthens Mugsy with food that lasts forever after the brief illness that kept him from being the vibrant man so many knew him to be.

You ponder Mugsy’s esteem for gardening and how he maintained his yard; you recall his involvement with the San Felippo Neri Lodge, his cheering as an avid sports fan, and so many fun things about his life and you give thanks to God for eight decades of living life to the fullest.

Mugsy will be honored at the cemetery for his military service in the United States Navy including service in the Korean Conflict, and we thank God for his dedication and willingness to protect our freedoms.

As we ponder such great love, we think of the message of Jesus. The Lord told us to have faith in Him, and many were the times Mugsy demonstrated strong faith by how he lived and died for his family.

Jesus promised to prepare a place for people of faith. And while you will deeply miss having Mugsy present among you as you so enjoyed having him with you, your own faith will remind you of the Lord’s unshakable promise.

The Lord will continue to invite you to know that Jesus is the Way, even and perhaps especially after all of the worldly ways of possibly bringing healing to Mugsy were exhausted.

The Lord will continue to invite you to know that Jesus is the Truth that guided Mugsy through more than fifty-one years of marriage; Mugsy’s esteem for this Truth led him to impart strong values and hard work among his children and grandchildren, enabled him to be so admired and esteemed by his surviving sisters and years ago by his brother and sister who have gone before us, and will forever leave a legacy of goodness for his eleven grandchildren.

The Lord Jesus, who told us that He is the Resurrection and the Life, grants life to Mugsy in ways we can only begin to imagine. Mugsy has been invited to live forever in the house of the Lord.

May our prayers together make his journey easier for him, enable each other to get through the intense grief we know, and assure us of love that never ends.

 

 

Rose Monteforte, 1921-2011

Mass of Christian Burial Friday August 16, 2011, Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church 10:00am

Born: Sept. 20, 1921 Died: Aug. 11, 2011 Age: 89 Funeral: August 16, 2011 Gospel: Matthew 11:28-30

 

Homily:

Rose certainly worked hard during her lifetime. I’ve been told how deeply her family members appreciated her care for those close to her. Rose found it necessary to leave school after the 8th grade to help her family during the Great Depression. It is our belief that her goodness made a big difference in the lives of those for whom she made so many sacrifices. She supplied her brothers with school clothes and even the rare toys (a bike and a sled) that meant so much to them during difficult times.

We heard the message of Jesus in Matthew’s Gospel. He invites those who are burdened to come to Him. Our prayers accompany Rose as we believe that the conclusion of her life on Thursday evening at Shepherd of the Valley answered that loving invitation of Jesus to come to Him. May He give her everlasting rest.

You will hold dear so many stories about Rose. She was an excellent acrobat, played marbles with great skill, was very fast in the hundred yard dash and a talented basketball player. It was an ankle injury playing basketball that led her to discontinue school and support her family members.

You think about how skilled Rose became working for the NYA government program for young girls making park benches. Her skills enabled her to make improvements at the family home as time passed.

You ponder how hard she worked later on as a nurse’s aid at Trumbull Memorial Hospital and eventually at Packard Electric as a braider for 32 years.

You will be uplifted by memories of happier times she enjoyed during her retirement when she tended her garden played cards, really enjoyed the game of Scrabble, and was able to travel to Italy twice to visit relatives on her father’s side of the family. Her vacations to other places with her best friend Rose Infante were great blessings in her life.

Rose was a member of the Infant Jesus Guild and the Catholic Women’s Society, and enriched the life of our parish a festival volunteer for many years. She made the potato and spinach pizzas. Her recipes are still followed by the festival workers today.

We trust that Jesus welcomes Rose to His everlasting care and gives her the kind of rest we are unable to give.

May the Lord bless us with His love and enable us to be inspired by many memories of Rose’s unselfishness, goodness, and love.

 

JoAnn Latiano Kearney, 1927-2011

 

Marguerite Virostko, 1957-2011

Mass of Christian Burial Friday July 29, 2011, Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church 10:00am
Born:  June 15, 1957   Died:  July 17, 2011   Memorial Mass:  July 29, 2011
Readings:  Romans 8:28-30, 31b-35, 37-39   1 Thessalonians 4:13-18   John 14:1-6

 

Homily:

            All of us here at Our Lady of Mount Carmel Parish extend our condolences to everyone in Marguerite’s family.  This is where her faith was first formed and nurtured.  It is fitting that we remember her in prayer and lift each other to the love of the Lord during this difficult time.

            We give thanks for the many ways Marguerite loved others and was loved.  It is during a time like this that we realize how wonderful the gift of love is.  It sees us through.  As St. Paul reminds us in the Letter to the Romans, no one and nothing can separate us from the love of Christ.  It is by bonding together today that each of us comes to a deeper appreciation of this truth.

            The loss of a loved one reminds us that God gives us a very precious gift, the gift of time.  How thoroughly Marguerite enjoyed spending time with her family members and friends.  How vital it is for us all to be ever mindful of the precious nature of this gift and to live life to the fullest.  Such an important part of that appreciation involves recognizing the sanctity of family relationships and being as supportive as possible to one’s family members.

            Your memories of Marguerite are blessed by how she took great care of her cats, enjoyed Indy car racing, cheered for the Ohio State Buckeyes and Cleveland Browns, liked tailgating before the games, paid diligent attention to the NFL Draft each year, enjoyed museums, rib burn-offs, shopping, and boating on Lake Erie.

            You appreciate Marguerite’s soft-hearted nature even as she often was like a Tom-boy on the exterior.

            You will miss her every time you gather.  How we rely on the Lord to strengthen us as time goes on with assurance that, as He tells us in the Gospel of John, He has gone to prepare a place for people of faith, and He is truly the way, the truth, and the life.

            The Scriptures chosen for this Mass remind us with such earnest consolation that as we believe that Jesus died and rose from the dead, Christ will in God’s time bring with Him all who have fallen asleep.  Remember often that prayer and sharing in the Sacraments during her illness was such an important part of Marguerite’s journey.  Remember every bit as often that each time we think of Marguerite, we can do so in a spirit of prayer, thankful for her life, assured that her sufferings have ended, and hopeful that in the fullness of time we will be able to grasp fully the many parts of God’s plan that we cannot possibly understand now.

            I’ve been told that there is an amusing image of Marguerite that dates back to when she was a little girl.  There she was, outside, with her beautiful blond hair, dressed in a very pretty dress, playing with mud, making mud pies, getting very dirty and even sampling the mud pies in her curiosity.

            You know, that image speaks volumes to us today.  There is the beauty of the dress, just as there is the beauty of our memories of Marguerite and the beauty of God’s promises to raise her to new life.  There is the ugliness of the mud, just as the illness and suffering Marguerite endured were among the nasty parts of life that soil the beauty we’d prefer to preserve. 

            But when all is said and done, life presents its share of images that combine the beautiful with those things that leave us with a bad taste. And it seems like we have no choice but to take the good with the bad as we journey through life.

            Smile when you remember Marguerite, and keep that image in mind.  Her life is now caught up in the love of the Lord, who cleanses every stain, nourishes with the finest food, lovingly places a garment of victory on Marguerite, and makes all things new. 

            May this same Lord be ever near us, console us in our grief, and fill us with renewed hope, strong faith,  and an ever-growing awareness of His love.

 

 

 

Elvira Macali, 1916-2011

Born:  October 16,1916    Died:  July 16, 2011  Funeral:  July 26, 2011
Gospel:  Matthew 11:28-30

 

Homily:

            This church was such an important part of Vera’s life.  As members of this parish family and members of Vera’s family gather to console each other and commend Vera to the care of the Lord, we give thanks for the many ways God touched her life here on these hallowed grounds.

            Vera was baptized by Father Nicola Santoro on January 28, 1917 in the old church building that stood just a few yards west of this church. 

            This very church is where she made her First Communion in 1925.

             She worked as the secretary here in the parish office for a number of years. 

            I’ve been told that just about every word she spoke had something to do with the church and the priests who have served here through the years.  Her faith was formed ever so solidly here, as she fell asleep every night with rosary beads in her hands.

            Vera touched the lives of many as a daughter, sister, aunt, Godmother, dear relative and friend, and for her ninety-four years of life we give thanks.  

            You think about livelier times, happier times when she enjoyed a good game of golf with the ladies and punctuated the game with a delicious luncheon afterwards.  Those who knew Vera say there was never a sandwich she saw that she did not like.  Now we pray that she enjoys an everlasting banquet with the Lord and all people of faith who have completed life’s journey.

            Vera’s travels were among the highlights of her life.  She loved warm places with lots of sunshine.  Think about it—warm places with lots of sunshine.  How many years have passed prior to Vera’s death since it has been this warm?  She visited almost all of the Caribbean Islands from the Bahamas to Aruba.  She was especially fond of St. Thomas Island.  Now that Vera’s travels have ended, we trust that she meets the Saint Thomas for whom that island was named and all the saints.

            You ponder how Vera was impeccably dressed.  Our faith tells us she has met the Lord who has fashioned her with a heavenly garment in His great love.

            Think about how Vera loved antiques and antique collecting, how she could spot a reproduction glass piece a mile away.  It’s been said that no one could fool her on a genuine antique.  She had an excellent eye for quality and uniqueness. 
Vera loved beautiful things and loved to be surrounded by them.  Trust that she is surrounded by absolute beauty in the company of the Lord, the angels, and the saints.

            You’ll remember how Vera could mix a mean gin and tonic with a twist of lime, how when holidays came she would make individual boxes of pizelles for her family members and friends. 

            You’ll cherish the years she spent at Archie’s house before her final illness made it impossible to stay there, and you’ll be blessed by memories of taking her so many places.

            Now, we trust in the words of Jesus.  He promised to prepare a place for people of faith.   In the Gospel chosen for this Mass of Christian Burial, we hear the invitation of Jesus:  “Come to me, and I will give you rest.”

            Vera has answered this invitation of Christ.  The Lord taught many people how to have faith through the life of Vera Macali for nearly nine and a half decades.  Now she has gone home.  Now she is at peace.

            And although you will miss her presence in your home, you will remember her as loving you.  Vera’s love will leave an indelible impression in your minds and hearts.  Her love will always be with you, and your love will accompany her as she continues to pray for those who meant so much to her.

           

 

 

 

 

Emil "Kris" Kristoff, 1920-2011

Funeral for Emil Kristoff known as Kris
Born:  March 15, 1920   Died:  July 19, 2011   Funeral:  July 23, 2011

Readings:  Wisdom 3:1-9    Psalm 23   Revelation 14:13   John 14:1-6

 

Homily:

            On behalf of everyone belonging to Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church, I extend my condolences to Kris’ family and assure you of our prayers.  We know it has been very difficult recently with the illnesses and passing of both Audrey and Kris.  We place our trust in the Lord who is able to alleviate their suffering and unite them with a joy that no one can possibly take from them.

          The Scriptures chosen for today’s service remind us that the souls of the just are in the hand of God and no more torment shall touch them.  The good works of a person follow him after he has died.  Jesus has prepared a place for people of faith.

          We give thanks for the many ways Kris touched so many lives during his more than 91 years of living. 

          When I used to visit him and Audrey on North Bentley Avenue, Kris used to talk about his Slovak background, growing up in New York, and serving in the United States Army during World War II. 

          Kris served our country as a radioman and notably participated in “Operation Fortitude South” to deceive Nazis about D-Day invasion plans.  He earned bronze stars and a good conduct medal in the course of his service.  This experience was such an important part of his life, and all of us owe a great deal of gratitude to “The Greatest Generation” who enabled us to be free.

          Years ago, Kris enjoyed playing golf and fishing. He liked to cheer for the New York Yankees.  After moving to this community in 1954, he enjoyed helping his sons participate in the activities of the Boy Scouts.  He earned his living as an insurance investigator for All State Insurance Company and belonged to the American Legion.

          Music was an enriching part of Kris’ background.  He enjoyed the Big Band Era and was very talented as a violinist and pianist. I’ve been told that during World War II, his musical talents enabled him and his friends to obtain a number of free drinks in the various places they stopped along the way.

          Kris and Audrey traveled to Scotland and France to reconnect with some of the people he had met during the war.     

          Now that Kris and Audrey’s travels through this life have ended, we entrust them to the everlasting care of the Lord.  We believe that just as they have shared in the sufferings of Christ by means of the crosses of failing health during recent times, they share in rising to new life with Jesus just as the Lord promised.

          May our memories of them be blessed and cherished, and may the Lord guide us in His ways of love all our days.

 

 

Stella Green, 1926-2011

 

Peter Philip Mollica, Sr, 1944-2011

Born:  October 2, 1944   Died:  July 14, 2011   Funeral:  July 18, 2011
Gospel:  John 15:9-12

 

Homily:

 

            So many thoughts and stories about Pete have been told these past few days since people heard about his death.  We know that he was loved by the people of this parish.  God called Pete home on the second day of this year’s festival.  For so many years, Pete fried so many cheese puffs at the parish festival.

           Pete was baptized here by Father Guido Nardoni on December 10, 1944.  This is where Father Nick Arioli officially witnessed Pete and Bonnie’s marriage vows during a Nuptial Mass on the 4th of July forty-seven years ago.  The parishioners want me to assure all of you closest to Pete that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

          It has been said that if a person loves his job, he never has to go to work.  Those who knew Pete Mollica would say that is a very good description of him.  His work was to lead us away from the serious demands of life to be refreshed by the happenings in the world of sports.  We give thanks for how Pete touched our lives by means of his work with the Vindicator for 33 years before retiring, and by how he even continued to contribute his talents in this regard after his retirement.

          Even more important than his work is the love that was expressed through Pete’s life.  Ponder the words of Jesus in the Gospel that was proclaimed a few moments ago. 
The night before Jesus died, He told His disciples to remain in His love. 

          Your memories of Pete will enable you to remain in Pete’s love.

          His love enabled him to be the very backbone of his family.  I’ve been told that Pete was such a good sport he’d take the blame if Bonnie missed a putt on the golf course.

         

          Pete’s esteem for his close friend Bo Rein, one of the most noteworthy athletes to come out of Niles, continued long after Bo’s tragic death more than thirty-one years ago.  Your hearts are touched by thoughts of Pete and Bo finally being able to play catch with each other again, or perhaps something much greater beyond our imagining that is in the plans of our Lord.

          The love shared between Pete and so many family members is a gift for which we are most grateful.  Pete’s death leaves a huge void in our lives, and we turn to the Lord in our sorrow for consolation that mere words have much difficulty bringing.   

          One of the most profound mysteries of life, and certainly a truth that we hold so very dear, is the fact that faith, hope, and love last forever.

          We have gathered as people of faith, trusting that the Lord who gave His life for Pete and for us all enables Pete to know joy beyond what our grief-stricken hearts can put into words right now.

          We have gathered as people of hope, longing for the day when we may be able to see Pete again, trusting in the meantime that Christ will give us strength and enable us to face the challenges associated with Pete’s passing.

          We have gathered as people who believe that love is our origin, love guides our lives, love is the most important ingredient of life that will get us where we need to go.

          As we bid goodbye to Pete, we ponder those ever so important words of Jesus:  “Remain in my love…I have told this so that my joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.”

          May Christ welcome Pete with great love, and may Pete know the fullness of joy.

          May our love for Pete lead us closer to him even as (and especially as) we struggle with the reality of his departure from us.  May this love lead us ever closer to the Lord.

 

James J Miranda Jr, 1953-2011

Born:  December 25, 1953   Died:  July 4, 2011 Age:  57
Funeral:  July 16, 2011

Readings:  1 Corinthians 13 *  Psalm 23 *  1 John 3:1-2 *  John 14:1-6

 

Homily:

 

            On Christmas Day of 1953, on a feast when people sang about the world’s joy that a Savior has been born, James J. Miranda Jr. was welcomed into the world.

          As we reflect about the fact that Jimmy’s life among us drew to a conclusion on the afternoon of Independence Day this year, we give thanks for the joy this life brought to our lives and we entrust Jimmy to the everlasting care of the Lord who came to set us free.
The Scriptures chosen for this morning’s service remind us of the truth that love is the most excellent gift.  Along with faith and hope, love lasts forever.

          We’re also reminded that the Lord is the Good Shepherd who leads us where we need to go; we have been told that God enables us to be children of God; we celebrate our belief that Jesus prepares a place for those who put their faith in Him.

          Ponder Jimmy’s life, and we find that the Lord spoke to us ever so clearly through this life in simple and beautiful ways.

          You think about how Jimmy showed so much affection and had the cutest smile.  Give thanks that He is being embraced forever by His Brother Jesus who takes such delight in welcoming the simple.

          You appreciate the many ways Jimmy demonstrated a wonderful sense of humor.  Every time something leads you to laugh in an innocent way, say a prayer for Jimmy and believe that he is praying for us because truly he is.

          Jimmy really enjoyed spending time with his family members during holidays and birthday celebrations.  Give thanks to the Lord for the ability all of us have to communicate, laugh, and love.

          You recall how Jimmy loved old cars.  Remember that God has blessed us all with the chance to enjoy some kind of hobby or another to keep us from taking life and its heavy demands too seriously.

          You easily imagine Jimmy enjoying a good meal.  Trust that he shares a heavenly banquet with the Lord and with all people of faith who have completed life’s journey.

          You fondly recall Jimmy riding the swing at Boyd’s Home.  Imagine him enjoying nothing but a care-free existence with the Lord now, with no more suffering and no more sadness.

          So often at funerals, we hear about the great and noteworthy accomplishments about the one who has passed from this life.

          At Jimmy’s funeral this morning, we hear something every bit as important or maybe it is even more important.  We hear about the value of appreciating what is simple, being grateful for the gifts God gives us, remembering the truth that love conquers every imaginable and unimaginable worry that comes from other sources or creeps into our lives from deep within our own minds.

Our prayer is not only that Jimmy may  be happy with God forever, but that we may learn that so much ha

 

Carole M Ladd, 1942-2011

Born:  October 22, 1942   Died:  July 12, 2011 Funeral:  July 15, 2011
Gospel:  John 6:1-13

 

Homily:

 

The Gospel we heard a few moments ago is a story about giving, feeding, nourishing, and leading people to think about what they have in a spirit of sharing.

As I join the people of Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church in extending sympathy to everyone closest to Carole, I give assurance of our prayerful support.

This was a place that was important in Carole’s journey of faith.  She was baptized here on January 10, 1943 by Father Joseph Saraceno.  Carole and her classmates celebrated their First Communion here at a Mass presided at by Father Oreste Cerbara on the last day of April in 1950.

 

Today, we ponder Carole’s life, give thanks for it, and trust that the Lord welcomes her to His everlasting care.

 

We celebrate this Mass of Christian Burial, having listened to God’s Word.  The Gospel story from the Book of John about Jesus feeding the multitude leads us to realize how important the action of giving is.

 

A young boy gave five barley loaves and two fish in a spirit of sharing and so many people were fed in such a generous way!

 

You think about how Carole constantly gave.  She put the needs of others before her own needs.  She lived to be happy for others.  Her family members meant so much to her. She loved to feed people, enjoyed adding ingredients to something that was already very good, and truly enjoyed visiting with family members, neighbors, and friends in the garage.

 

You’ll fondly recall the meals you shared, the visits that were so precious, and all of the things Carole liked to do.  You’ll remember with fondness how she went bowling, played cards, and took on a whole new venture after retiring from Packard by owning the Crystal Vase Florist store.

You will continue to be nourished by the love Carole showed to you each and every time you remember her.

 

Jesus fed those close to Him, not only in the story we heard, but also when He told His followers to celebrate the Sacred Meal known as the Eucharist.  He continues to tell us to do this in memory of Him. 

We continue to share in the saving actions of love Jesus demonstrated a long time ago.

 

The Body of Jesus was broken on the Cross so that Carole and all of us might be made whole in His love, taking on our pain, disappointments, setbacks, failures, fears, and sins.

 

The Blood of Jesus was poured out as a reminder that He stopped at nothing to demonstrate His love for Carole and for all of us, giving His very life.

 

Our thoughts are filled with love for Carole and memories of her love for us. 

 

May the Lord whose love never ends be with us now as we commend Carole to God’s everlasting care.  We trust that Christ will continue to enable us to share in Carole’s love as He feeds us with His abiding love.

 

Louise R Maffei

Born:  Feb. 22, 1931   Died:  July 9, 2011
Funeral:  July 12, 2011
Gospel:  John 6:1-13

 

Homily:

 

            Jesus fed so many people in the story from John’s Gospel that we just heard.

            As the members of Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church gather here in prayer this morning, we pray that Jesus might feed the members of Louise’s family with assurances of His love.

            Jesus fed Louise spiritually so many times here in this church.  Father Nicola Santoro baptized her here on May 29, 1932.

            This is where Donald Maffei and Louise exchanged marriage vows on June 5, 1954.  Don and his family came to appreciate Louise as a simple woman from the old school who cooked delicious food, kept a clean house, and shared her love with her family in ways that nourish those close to her for the rest of their lives.

            We trust that as we give thanks for Louise’s life, Jesus feeds us all as we have come together to hear His Word and to be nourished at His Table

            You remember the many times and the many ways Louise fed you. 

            She made ravioli when Joe came home and on other special occasions. 

            You have fond memories of her wedding soup, sauce, and ham pie.  Those delicious items were linked to some very happy holiday meals you shared.

            You remember how much Louise enjoyed volunteering to cook in the school cafeteria years ago when so many youngsters were enrolled at our parish school.

            She always enjoyed going out to eat as a family, too. 

            Actually feeding you with food wasn’t the only way she nourished you.

            Louise loved to crochet.  The time she spent doing that was a way she nourished you with love, making things for you.  She sewed and sewed until her eyesight became too impaired to continue.  Now we trust that now Louise sees the Lord.

           

            Louise fed your memories with good times, spending hour after hour at Waddell Park on warm summer days years ago, going to Florida, making those relatively short trips to the near south to take some chances and venture toward some excitement, enjoying that Halloween party in Atlantic City years ago.

            You also remember trying a vacation in Maine.  It might be more memorable for how it was not what you expected; but was a memory nevertheless.

            We trust that her travels through the many joys and challenges of life have finally led Louise to the Lord.

            May Jesus continue to nourish you with love by means of your memories of Louise.

            May the Lord fill you with a deep appreciation for how He wants you to stay closely connected with this church family.  This parish meant so much to Louise.  I am certain that if you search your hearts, you will find that Louise’s close connection with the Lord enabled her to give thanks for the good times and to endure the difficult times the best she could.  I am sure Louise would want those closest to her to continue to do everything possible not only to maintain strong family unity, but also to edify this very parish that helped satisfy her spiritual hunger in so many ways.  A part of our parish family dies when we lose good people like Louise.  It’s up to all of us to try to keep this important place vibrant where God seeks to do His work.  We believe that Louise prays for us and with us as we search our hearts for how we might respond to this call.

            We commend Louise to the everlasting care of the Lord.  We trust that Jesus invites us to draw strength from Him.  It brings comfort to know that Louise suffers no more and has been invited to be with Jesus.

            We pray for the grace to thank God for Louise’s life, and we pray for the grace to open our hearts to the many ways the Lord seeks to feed and nourish us all of the time.

 

Sarah A. DeLuca, 1921-2011

 

Donald M Toy, 1925-2011

Born: July 31, 1925 Died: July 4, 2011 Funeral: July 7, 2011
Gospel: John 15:9-12

Homily:

All of us here at Our Lady of Mount Carmel Parish extend our condolences to everyone closest to Don and assure you of our prayerful support.
It is so very important for us to ponder Don’s life in the context of the Gospel chosen for this morning’s Mass of Christian Burial.
Our Gospel leads us to think about two things that were very dear to Don. What are these things? They are time and love.
There was very special timing associated with the story in the Gospel. The scene where Jesus made this speech, according to the Gospel writer named John, was the Last Supper. Jesus was preparing His friends for the fact that He would soon die in a supreme sacrifice of love for them and for us all. It is easy for us to realize how important it was for Jesus to say words to them that would stay with them forever.
The words Jesus chose bring out such a strong measure of love. He said: “As the Father loves me, so I also love you. Remain in my love.”
These words of Jesus as the Gospel writer John wrote them for us remain with us some two thousand years after Jesus died and rose to new life.
And today, as the difficult time has come for us to commend Don to our Heavenly Father’s care, the time and love associated with Don’s life are onour minds and seek to be enshrined in our hearts.
Don’s family members were so quick to point out that the time Don served as a veteran in the United States Marine Corps was a strong measure of his love for this country.
Don will be honored for this military service at the cemetery by the Trumbull County American Legion Honor Guard. Don’s family members are convinced that the timing of his death – Independence Day – is not merely a coincidence. It is a testimony to his love for the nation for which he earned a Purple Heart, bearing the scars from being wounded in action at the Battle of Iwo Jima.
Ponder the timing associated with Don’s many remarks through the years. The timing was often a wonderful reflection of love for those so very dear to him. His concern for Grace, with whom he shared more than sixty-four years of marriage, was evident in his expressions even during his most difficult times, during his final months of life. He always wanted to be sure she was taken care of so well.
As you think about the time God gave to Don, you find so many expressions of love. He’d compliment the hair, clothes, eyes of his grandchildren just when they needed to be affirmed most of all. Those memories will stay with you for a long time.
The years 1957 through 1984 were filled with the kind of love necessary to own and operate the Crosby-Mook Office Supply Equipment to earn his living and lovingly provide for his family.
You know how he enjoyed time devoted to fishing, traveling, and spending time with those closest to him. You fondly recall how he loved to arrive considerably earlier than he said he would. And how you wish he could stay with you always!
The days, weeks, months, and years ahead of you will remind you of his love, humor, and charm so very often. You’ll think of the habits he had – counting the number of weeks since the fall that made his final months difficult, paying such close attention to his watch, insisting that a new watch battery be obtained soon after the old battery ran out, and wanting to be sure the watch would either get fixed immediately or replaced when the stem broke.
And now, our hearts are saddened that Don doesn’t measure time with us the way he did for eight and a half decades. At the same time, we give thanks for how God blessed us by the time of Don’s life.
Our hearts trust that Don continues to be caught up in the love of the Lord, who inspires us to remain in His love.
Don always appreciated the loving care shown to him by the nurses and by everyone concerned about him during his difficult times.
Now we ask God to give us the strength to entrust him to the everlasting care of the Lord.
Don’s stories captivated the minds and hearts of all who listened to them for so long a time.
Now the story of Don’s life is joined to the story of the Lord who taught us all to remain in His love.
May our lives perpetuate the story of love……all of the time.

 

Nick Patrone, 1917-2011

 

Karen B. Violette, 1946-2011

William H Miller, 1937-2011

Born:  February 12, 1937     Died:  June 20, 2011    Funeral:  June 23, 2011
Gospel:  John 14:1-6

 

Homily:

Jesus told us that He would go to prepare a place for people of faith. We heard this in today’s Gospel.

I extend condolences on behalf of all of the members of Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church to MARLENE, MARK, LEZLIE, BILL, BOB, MENA, MINDY, BRANDON, and EVERYONE close to Bill. We trust that the Lord has prepared a place for him.

You give thanks for Bill’s life.

Marlene knew Bill since she was twelve years old. She and Bill became engaged when she was sixteen and shared the gift of marriage since exchanging their wedding vows here in this church in the presence of Father Nick Arioli on June 14, 1958.

You give thanks for how he earned his living for twenty-five years at Kroger Supermarket in Warren, for a decade at GATX Fabricating Plant in Masury, and as a part time custodian in Howland Schools before retiring in 1999.

Bill truly enjoyed polka music. He played the button box accordion for the Summit Street Jammers.

He really enjoyed hunting and fishing.

During recent years, Bill and Marlene enjoyed traveling and going to flea markets.

You remember him as one who dearly loved his family and gave so much of his time and energy to his loved ones.

The Trumbull County American Legion Honor Guard will honor Bill at the cemetery for his service in to the United States Navy.

Bill will always have a special place in your hearts.

I know that it was very meaningful for him to pray together and be given the Anointing of the Sick just ten days before the Lord called him home. We believe that Bill put His faith in the Lord. We also believe that the Lord has led him through the shadow of death and promises everlasting peace to those who trust in Him.

Today, we place our faith in this Jesus who is the way, the truth and the life.

We trust that Jesus will lead us through the way of sadness and give us assurance that Bill’s sufferings have ended and that he is at peace.

We trust in the truth that Jesus is able to do what none of us can do – Jesus gives the fullness of life. Christ has died for us and rose to new life. He promises a share in His resurrection.

May the Lord be with us every moment of every day, and fill us with hope and love that never ends, for most certainly we depend on Jesus as our way, truth, and life.

 

Mary Roberts, 1918-2011

Born: August 20, 1918 Died: June 13, 2011
Funeral: June 16, 2011
Gospel: John 6:1-13

 

Homily:

 

            A multitude of people were fed.  Such was the story of the Gospel.  And such was the story of Mary’s life.  She fed those who knew her in a multitude of ways.

            We extend the sympathy of Our Lady of Mount Carmel Parish Family to everyone close to Mary.  She was baptized at this parish on October 20, 1918 by Father Santoro.   She was confirmed here by Bishop Schrembs on June 22, 1928.  Mary and Luigi Antonio Roberts exchanged their marriage vows here in the presence of Father Saraceno on October 29, 1938.

            Pondering those events of long ago reminds us that this church was such an important place in Mary’s life.  As the years passed, she often sat in the very same place, third row from the front in the middle.  This church is where so many happy occasions during Mary’s life were celebrated.  This is also where she mourned the loss of so many relatives and friends close to her who completed life’s journey before her through the years.

            Today, even as her passing brings its share of sadness, we know it is so important to give thanks for the many ways she nourished our lives.  For Mary, providing food was a way to express love.  You’ll remember how she constantly cooked.  So many meals were shared at her house.  You’ll fondly recall the Easter Bread she baked for so many people.  It’s easy to imagine the delicious Sausage pizza she prepared.  There were also those desserts known as grasshoppers.  They included the vanilla ice cream, the crème d’mint, and…tell me…what else was in the blender that made it so delicious?

            You think about the countless peppers she canned.   You even remember how absolutely nothing went to waste, because she even saved the cartilage from the chicken breasts.  Just like in the Gospel:  Jesus told the disciples to gather up the fragments so that nothing would be wasted.

            God blessed you with wonderful memories of her earning the nickname “Kool Aid Mary” for the generous way she made sure children received refreshments.  You also have fond memories of her providing so very much gum, candy, and pop for anyone who came to her house. 

            Whenever you hear Italian music or the sounds of old Lawrence Welk re-runs, you’ll think of Mary.  Say a prayer of thanks to God for how she enriched your lives.

           
Today is a day when we have gathered at the table of the Lord to be fed by His presence.  Just as Jesus provided food for the multitude and Mary fed so many loved ones in so many ways, the story of God’s love lives on.  Jesus gave His life for us and told us to share a Sacred Meal in remembrance of Him. 

            Mary constantly devoted her life to those she loved.  She lit candles for you every time you traveled, went hunting, participated in a sporting event, faced a big challenge, were sick, or no matter what the occasion….yes, she lit candles to assure you that she remembered you.

            This morning, we see the tall candle that has been lit beside Mary’s casket.  It was one more way Jesus calls us to remember Him, and one more way we are called to remember Mary’s love.  The candle stands for the Light of Christ.  Jesus told us that He is the Light of the World who guides us where we need to go.  The flame reminds us of the light that warms our hearts and shows us the way.   Mary’s many expressions of love have warmed your hearts and show you the way to live.  Her love was truly a way the Lord revealed His love to you.

            As difficult as it is to say goodbye to one who has lived more than 92 years, we entrust Mary to this Light and love of the Lord. 

            We believe that our memories of her will continue to nourish us all our days.

            How you’d love to hear her say one more time, “Here is a dollar!  Now walk to Marty’s Market and get some treats.”

            The sad reality is that those days are long gone by, and only the wistful and wishful memories of those days remain.

            Somehow, some way, Mary would whisper in our hearts right now if she could.  She’d tell us that all the dollars, all the coins, all the pizzas, all the candy, all the gum, all the grasshoppers, and all the lit candles were expressions of love much deeper than the treats and gestures themselves.

            Just as Jesus told the disciples to feed the crowd themselves, Mary would tell us that now it is up to us to feed and refresh each other with expressions of love that last a lifetime.

            All that energy she had scrubbing and washing and giving and caring was a labor of love, just as the actions of Jesus taking and thanking and giving the loaves were actions filled with love, actions charged with the encouragement to us to follow His example.

            Mary's prayer would be that not one single bit of the love she showed be wasted; may the memories of this bountiful love inspire us to be so generous us in all that we do.

 

Ada DeMare, 1918-2011

Born: November 16, 1918 Died: June 11, 2011
Funeral: June 15, 2011
Gospel:  John 15:9-12

 

Homily:

 

            All of you closest to Ada have the prayerful support of the people of Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church.  I join them in expressing my condolences to you.  Ada was a member of our parish for a long time.  You have our sympathy and support.

          So many images of the things Ada enjoyed fill your minds.

          You think about her as a young mother moving to this country from Italy in the 1940’s.  How important it must have been for Ada to rely on her faith to enable her to embark on that journey!  How important it is for us this day to rely on our faith to help guide Ada’s journey from this life to the life hereafter.

          When Jesus ate with His closest friends the night before He gave His life for us, He encouraged them to live on in His love.  We heard this message proclaimed in the Gospel Ada’s children and I chose for this morning’s Mass of Christian Burial.

          Your memories will lead you to live on in Ada’s love, a love that reflected the love of Jesus, a love that has now led Ada to be invited to accept the fullness of joy.

 You will think of her as a loving mother and grandmother. 

 

You will fondly remember the many meals she cooked.  You’ll think of the tomato sauce, the pizza,   the way she taught those closest to her to cook, and all of the love that was the most important ingredient in every way she nourished you.

 

You’ll remember how she loved bowling, ceramics, painting pictures, crocheting, and playing BINGO.

Many of you will remember the Afghans and slippers she lovingly made for you.

 

Your hearts will be touched when you think of the gorgeous baby dolls she made, especially how she sent one to Vanna White from Wheel of Fortune and how Ada so enjoyed receiving a reply and autographed picture from Vanna.

 

You’ll thank God for the many ways Ada put the teachings of Jesus into practice. 

She took care of her ailing aunt in Rome before coming to this country. 

 

She shared her love with young dance students who came to know her as “Grandma.”

 

You’ll remember this very special woman in your lives who was not quite five feet tall but touched your lives in such enormous ways.

 

Our faith pleads with us to live on in the love of Jesus, and to give thanks for the many ways this love was shared by means of Ada’s life.

 

Our connection with people of every time and place leads us to pray not only for us gathered here today, but also for all other relatives living far away from here that could not join us in person but are with us in spirit.

 

It has been such a long time since Ada was with her beloved husband Philip.  She met and married him in Italy before coming to this country.  He passed from this life more than thirty-nine and a half years ago.  Now our faith tells us that they are reunited in God’s care along with so many other relatives and friends who passed before Ada was called to be with the Lord on Saturday afternoon.

May the Lord strengthen us during this time of need and assure us that not even death can sever the bonds of love.

 

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Audrey Kristoff, 1923-2011

Funeral for Audrey Kristoff
Born:  November 26, 1923   Died:  June 6, 2011
Funeral: June 8, 2011

Readings:  Wisdom 3:1-9    Psalm 23   Revelation 14:13   John 14:1-6

 

Homily:

            All of you are in my prayers and in the prayers of the people of Our Lady of Mount Carmel Parish.   We know that you have been experiencing some difficult times and assure you of our condolences and support.

          One of Audrey’s wishes was that the 23rd Psalm be proclaimed at her funeral.  Several minutes ago, we heard this beautiful passage from the Scriptures.  We are reminded that the Lord is our Shepherd.  He guides us where we need to go.  We place our trust in Him, for He will lead people of faith through the shadow of death to His everlasting banquet.

So many memories of Audrey have been on your minds these recent days.

          You remember how proud she was of her Scottish heritage.

          You recall how she and Emil shared the joys and challenges of marriage since July 22, 1945, living on North Bentley Avenue since the 1950’s, being a part of this Niles community for such a long time.

          You remember how effectively she ran the household, lovingly prepared meals, worked diligently as the secretary to the personnel manager at Trumbull Memorial Hospital for thirty five years prior to her retirement in 1989, and made her family a priority in her life. 

          Audrey was the one who kept track of the family records and could tell you so much about her relatives.

          We pray for the grace to remember happier and healthier times, for we know that these recent years of declining health have been so difficult for her and those close to her.

          We remember how important Audrey’s faith was to her.

          She deeply appreciated every opportunity to pray, be visited by people from the church, and share in the Eucharist.

          May the Lord who has brought an end to Audrey’s suffering welcome her to His care and console everyone whose lives she touched in so many ways –

               Emil,    Rick,   Janet, Kevin, Erin,  Duane, Ryan, Avery, and Reid.

May our hearts know that Jesus has prepared a place for Audrey, and our souls be refreshed by the consolation the Lord brings.

 

Raymond Leclerc, 1930-2011

Funeral for Raymond Leclerc
Born:  February 8, 1930   Died:  June 4, 2011   Age:  81
Funeral:  June 8, 2011
Gospel:  Matthew 7:24-25

 

Homily: 

          All of the members of Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church extend our condolences to Raymond’s family members.  We know that recent times associated with Raymond’s illness and this present time of mourning his death are difficult times and we assure you of our prayers and support.  We appreciate how he served this parish as an usher, and his many expressions of loyalty to Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church.

          Those of you closest to Raymond are mindful of how he touched your lives as a great teacher, father, father-in-law, relative, and friend. 

          Most of all, Lella will cherish the memories of her husband with whom she shared the promises of marriage since July 5, 1952.  Lella appreciated her relationship with Raymond so very deeply, cherishing him as her very best friend and her sturdy rock of support.

All of you treasure the many ways Raymond blessed your lives as a fine listener, one in whom you could confide and you could be sure that he would give you sound advice.  You knew him as one who lovingly taught you so many things.

With all of these things in mind, we chose the Gospel story from the Book of Matthew that was proclaimed a few moments ago.  Jesus taught His followers to listen carefully to His words and to act on them.  He told us that if we listen carefully to His words and put them into practice, we will be like a wise man who built his house on solid rock.  The many storms of life will come, yet the house will not collapse because it had been set so very solidly.

Many will be the times in the future when Raymond’s teachings, his sound words of advice, his example to you concerning promotion of family values and a life built on faith will come to mind. 

You will think of Raymond’s life and be confident that he took to heart the teaching of the Gospel.
And you will find that the Lord will continue to console, guide, and sustain you as you continue life’s journey. 

May Jesus in His great love calm your fears and enable you to trust that He has welcomed Raymond to His everlasting care.

May you know that God has raised Raymond up, bearing him on eagle’s wings and delivering him from all of the difficult challenges associated with his final illness that he faced.

This same Lord who rose from the dead to bring new life to His departed faithful people will be with you as you face this challenge of saying goodbye in one sense to Raymond, and in each and every challenge in times to come.

         

 

Julia DeFiore, 1918-2011

Born: May 30, 1918 Died: May 27, 2011 Aged: 92
Funeral: May 31, 2011
Gospel: Matthew 11:28

 

Homily:

 

            All of us belonging to Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church extend our condolences to Julia’s family members.  You are in our thoughts & prayers.

            Julia spent a lifetime here in Niles.  We entrust her to God’s care as we have gathered here in a place so very important to her.

            Julia was baptized at this parish by Father Nicola Santoro on May 7, 1922. 

            This church is where she was confirmed when Bishop Joseph Schrembs visited our parish on May 8, 1931.

            Julia prayed here during many happy occasions. She also mourned the death of so many people who were close to her when their funerals were celebrated here in this church.

            Having lived ninety-two years, a multitude of experiences were the fabric of Julia’s  life, so many of them having to do with her parish, family members, Niles neighbors, and friends.

            Those closest to Julia remember the dedication she demonstrated as an inspector at Packard Electric for forty years before her retirement approximately thirty-five years ago.

            We also remember how she liked to crochet and enjoyed cooking.

            We have listened to the words of Jesus in the Gospel chosen for Julia’s Mass of Christian Burial.  The Lord invites all who are weary to come to Him.  He promises rest for His faithful people.

            All of us know that Julia’s final months were not easy.  She experienced being hospitalized and having to go to Autumn Hills Care Center where the Lord called her to Himself Friday evening.

            We believe that Julia has answered the call to come to Him, where we believe that  a multitude of family members and friends wish greet her and welcome Julia to a place where there is no more suffering, frustration, or pain. 

            May the Lord be with us during this time of need and always.  May He welcome Julia to His care and guide us in the ways of peace.

 

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Sandra E Nicastro

Born: October 22, 1937 Died: May 14, 2011
Funeral Saturday, May 21, 9:30am Our Lady of Mount Carmel
Scriptures: Isaiah 25:6-9 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 Matthew 11:28-30

 

Homily:

            We welcome the Reverend Doctor Bernard Oakes who has joined us in expressing condolences to Sandra’s family members and to everyone close to her.
Know that you are in our prayers

          Later in this service, Dr. Oakes will share some words of remembrance.

          At this time, we ponder the Scriptures chosen for today.  The Word of God brings us consolation as no other words can.

          The Prophet Isaiah, in our First Reading, proclaimed how God prepares a glorious feast, a sumptuous banquet. You fondly recall how Sandra liked to eat.  For her, sharing mealtimes with its delicious food and edifying conversation was such an important part of family life.  Although her place at your table is vacant, our faith leads us to trust that God has invited her to share an everlasting feast at His table in heaven. 

          Saint Paul reminds us in our Second Reading about the everlasting quality of the gifts of faith, hope, and love.

           Sandra touched your lives through her faith in God, expressed for many years at First Christian Church here in Niles and more recently as a member of St. Alphonsus Liguori Church in Carmel, Indiana. 

          We gather to lift each other with the sure and certain hope that Sandra will rise again just as Jesus Christ was raised from the dead to new life. 

          This is a day when our prayers are joined to the prayers of all the great witnesses to the faith who have gone before us.  In particular, we remember Sandra’s mother Martha.  There is such a blessedness in the connections we have with people of faith of all times and places.  Just this past Tuesday, Brittany chose the Confirmation name Martha, so we trust that St. Martha and all the saints welcome Sandra to a place of refreshment, light, and peace where there is no more suffering.

          Love is the greatest gift of all.  You will remember Sandra’s love as a mother and grandmother.  Your lives will forever be touched by her love for family, her esteem for animals, and for the ways she was always present for the activities of Amanda and Brittany.  You’ll fondly recall how people nicknamed her “Castro” and you will know in your hearts that not even death eliminates the bonds of love we form in this life.  Love lasts forever.

We heard Jesus issue an invitation in the Gospel.  He invites all who are weary to come to Him.  Sandra faced such intense suffering during her more than four and a half decades of struggling from the complications of rheumatoid arthritis.  Now we believe that she answers the final call to come to the Lord where His care embraces her even as His care reaches out to all of us who mourn.

          Sandra used to enjoy the words of the Irish Blessing.  Now we make this our prayer for her:

Sandra, may the road rise to meet you.  May the wind be always at your back.  May the sun shine warm upon your face, the rains soft upon your fields.  And until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.

 

 

Adeline L Frient, 1918-2011

 

Funeral Homily for Adeline Frient
Born:  February 24, 1918   Died:  May 6, 2011   Age: 93
Funeral:  May 11, 2011
Scriptures:  1 John 3:1-2 * 2 Timothy 4:6-8 * John 17:1-4

 

Homily

 

“What can you do?”    These are words Mom used so often.  She used to playfully imitate a lady who would purchase vegetables from Mom’s parents when Mom was growing up on the farm in Suffield. It’s probably been close to 80 years since Mom actually heard that lady named Mrs. Olsen lamenting the things that were happening in her life, resigning herself to the realities that surrounded her, wringing her hands and saying, “What can you do?”

 

Now that Mom has been called home to the Lord after 93 years of living, we prayerfully find ourselves echoing a form of the same question:  “What can we do?”

 

What should we do first?  We give thanks to Bishop Murry and to all of my brother priests for the many expressions of support.  We are very grateful to them and to everyone who has been so very supportive in so many ways.

What can all of us do?   We can take a few moments to give thanks for Adeline Frient’s life.  Although Mom was a private person in many ways, she certainly touched many lives in a multitude of dimensions.

 

Mom would never want anyone to eulogize her.  That wasn’t Mom’s style.

 

But I believe it would please her if we were to glorify God for Mom’s amazing energy.  It lasted a long time!  When Mom was about to be released from the hospital the final time before things really took a turn for the worse, she told the social worker:  “Honey, I need to go home.  There is plenty of work for me to do there.” 

 

There is actually a spiritual lesson in the fact that Mom could not understand why she was so tired.  Maybe the comedian Bill Cosby was right when he described the difference between how dads sleep and how moms sleep.  Dads?  They sleep like this: (Loud snore.)  Moms?  They sleep like this: (Eyes wide open, shifting about nervously, ears listening for a pin drop miles away.)

 

That was Mom.  What is the spiritual lesson? Mom worked even in her sleep. It was the work of God, though.  She was praying that my brothers were not getting into too much FOOLISHNESS.  Not to mention, of course, how much Mom prayed that I was avoiding FOOLISHNESS, too.

 

Again, how grateful my family members and I are for the care and concern shown by so many people for my mother.  Some people in their great kindness have told us they did not realize Mom had been sick.  That’s because we honored Mom’s typically humble wish that not too many people should pay excessive attention to her. 

 

I believe Mom wanted people to remember how very sharp her mind was so for so long!  How many people could tell you the wedding anniversary of her step-father’s infamous third cousin’s wife’s half-brother in law?  Up until recently, it seemed like Mom could.  It was one of the many ways God’s care for people was expressed through Mom’s attention to other people’s lives.

What can we do?   We give thanks for the many ways Mom fed us.  She nourished our lives through so many expressions of God’s goodness.  Just the other day, as the days leading to this day were down to a precious few, some of Mom’s dear relatives were reminiscing about the delicious pies she used to bake.

 Although Mom’s aprons no longer adorn her, memories of God’s generosity expressed through her sharing will continue to dress our lives and nourish our souls.

 

What can we do?   Suppose we hear an expression of hilarious humor.  Imagine that we listen to an entertaining story. Maybe we search for the title to a beautiful song.  In all these, we can give thanks to the Lord for the many ways Mom brightened our lives through simple joys.
Sweet Adeline’s charm and that radiant smile could warm the coldest of days and nights. We can pray for the grace to remember that charm often.

 

What can we do?   Most of all, we can be sure that Mom ran this race we call life so very well; Mom fought the good fight of faith the very best she could.

 

The Scriptures tell us that God bestows great love in enabling us to be called children of God.  And that is what we are – children of God!  God’s Word tells us that we can only imagine what we shall become.

 

Adeline Lucille became a child of God way back in 1918, while the First World War still troubled our planet. She was presented for baptism at St. Joseph Church in the Randolph-Suffield area. 

 

Many times over, Mom reaffirmed her faith at St. Joe’s and then for so many more years attentively being formed by God’s Word and participating in the Sacraments right here in Immaculate Conception Church.  Baptism joins our lives to the life of Jesus Christ.  If you really knew Adeline, your heart will assure you that she never lost sight of the fact that her connection with the Lord was of utmost importance. 

 

One of the many beautiful pictures of my mother is the one taken of her as a little girl on her First Communion Day.  She is featured holding a candle.

 

 Now we see the tall candle near her casket, and we are ever so convinced that the Light of Christ led her through so many joys and through so many difficult times throughout the course of nearly nine and one third decades of living.

 

I’m very certain that if Mom could tell us what we should do,   she’d tell us not to lose sight of the Light of Christ, THE Light of THE Loving Lord who suffered, died, and rose from the dead to dispel the darkness of sin and death.

Adeline’s dying brings profound grief to our hearts.  Deep reflection reveals why. It is because her love for us was so strong.  We also grieve because in our love for Mom, we wish we could have spared her from death.

But remember Mom’s many beautiful rational moments throughout the years.  What did she tell us? She had so many ways of bringing us back to reality. 

 

She’d tell us a body can only take so much.  

 

She’d reluctantly admit that she could no longer do the things she could do before.

 

Changes are never easy.  Imagine the changes Mom witnessed in 93 years of living!   Mom liked some changes.  She had a hilarious way of making fun of some other changes.

 

I’ll always remember how she used to ridicule computers.  That is, until she wanted me to look up for her something about one of the relatives.

 

Today, we come together with the full knowledge that God assures people of faith that life is changed, not ended.

 

 When the body of our earthly dwelling lies in death, the loving power of God makes it possible for us to gain an everlasting dwelling place in heaven. 

 

Mom would no longer want us to pray that she’d get well; she’d want us to pray that she is with the Lord. 

 

She’s want us to know that even as real as our grief is, it should not be a grief that is void of hope.

So what do we do?  

 

We trust that God welcomes Adeline to a place of rest.  We pray that she may be led ever so lovingly where there is no more suffering, no more sadness, no more pain, and no more frustration.

 

Would all of you permit me, please, a final word to my Mom if I may? Mom, you may rest now.  Finally there is no more work for you to do.  So please, relax, close your eyes, let Saint Joseph welcome you – you’ll recognize him well -- and enjoy the music!

 

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William A Wolfe, 1932-2011

 

Born: November 25, 1932 Died: April 26, 2011
Funeral: April 29, 2011
Gospel: Matthew 11:28-30

 

Homily:

 

            Bill was the kind of man who did not want anyone to say much about him at his funeral.

          Knowing that Bill loved the Lord, I am sure he would want us to say something that would bring others closer to God.

          As all of us bring our words of consolation to Rita, Billy, Tony, and everyone closest to Bill, we realize that the Lord has issued an invitation to Bill and an invitation to all of us. We heard this invitation in today’s Gospel.  Jesus said:  “Come to me, and I will give you rest.”

          We know that Bill faced much suffering, and we believe that on Tuesday morning, the Lord said “Come to me” when Bill breathed his last.

          We also believe that Bill answered this call to come to Jesus many times before Tuesday morning.  Bill spent many hours in prayer.   How many times during his more than seventy-eight years of living he prayed here in this church and at home.  This church is where he was baptized by Fr. Joseph Saraceno on January 7, 1933.  Bill shared in First Communion here from Father Saraceno on May 12, 1940.  Exactly one week later, he and his classmates shared in the Sacrament of Confirmation when Bishop James McFadden visited this parish.

          Yes, many were the times Bill answered the call of Jesus to come to the Lord.  And today, as we commend Bill to God’s everlasting care, we answer the call of the Christ to come to the Lord who shows us compassion, brings us comfort, and sustains us in our sorrows.

          We place our trust in the same Lord in whom Bill trusted, believing that Jesus was raised from the dead, grateful that Christ seeks to fill Bill and all of us with new life and the fullness of hope.  May the love of the Lord sustain us every time we remember Bill.

          May our hearts know that God prepares a place for people of faith, and Bill has been called to dwell in that place forever.

 

Mary Jacola, 1920-2011

 

William E Fisher Jr, 1920-2011

Born:  July 6 1921   Died:  April 22, 2011   Age:  89
Funeral:  April 27, 2011
Gospel:  John   19:25-30

 

Homily:

 

            All of us here at Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church extend our sympathy to “Lil”, Bill’s children, siblings, grandchildren, in-laws, members of the extended family, and everyone closest to him.  Know that you are in our prayers.

          You gather this afternoon remembering the many ways Bill touched your lives.  You knew him as a wonderful family member.  You fondly recall the many things that brought Bill enjoyment in life, including his dog Missy, lottery tickets, crossword puzzles, playing golf, conversing on the telephone, and cheering for the Cleveland Browns and Cleveland Indians. 

          You will remember stories about Bill working hard with his father’s landscaping firm.  His talents in landscaping earned him and “Lil” the Neighborhood Pride Award in the year 2000 for the decorative plants that adorned his house and well-tended lawn along with the improvements made on their house. 

You will also fondly recall stories about how Bill went on to work at the Republic Steel Company as an administrative assistant to the superintendent before his retirement three decades ago, and the many stories associated with his work as head of security at the Eastwood Mall in Niles and his employment at the Cafaro offices in Youngstown.    

          Our nation is grateful for Bill’s service as a veteran in the United States Army during World War II as a sergeant tank commander.  Special tribute for Bill’s military service will be presented after this Mass.

          We have gathered here not only to give thanks for Bill’s life and to commend him to God’s everlasting care, but also to ponder the meaning of Bill’s passing in the light of our faith.

         
Bill was called home to be with the Lord on Good Friday afternoon.  When I spoke with Candy on the telephone shortly after we made funeral arrangements, she mentioned how very special this is.  Bill died on the day we remember Christ’s saving love for us.  Jesus stopped at nothing to show how much God wants to save us from everlasting death.  We commend Bill to God’s everlasting care during this Easter week, a time when we are especially grateful for the new hope and new life God gives to us because of this perfect obedience and loving sacrifice of the Lord who promises to raise us up, too.

            You’ll fondly remember referring to Bill as “Cowboy” for the way he persevered in his suffering.  As time goes on, you’ll also remember the fact that Bill was united with Jesus in His suffering and death.  As the Gospel story from John told us a few moments ago, Jesus delivered over His spirit after saying “It is finished.”  The Lord’s saving work was completed when He breathed no more, and Bill’s nearly nine decades filled with so many experiences were totally caught up in this love of the Lord who waited to greet Bill when Bill breathed his last.  It is our firm belief that Bill suffers no more and that the Lord who loves us all is able to fill him with new life.

          The Lord knows you will miss having Bill among you in your home, and this same Lord assures you that Bill will always be in your heart. 

          May Christ, who promised to prepare a place for people of faith, welcome Bill to His care and continue to look upon us with compassion as we share our grief with the Lord and with each other.

           

Maxine Barritt, 1924-2011

Born:  October 31, 1924   Died:  April 21, 2011
Funeral:  April 26, 2011
Readings:  Ecclesiastes 3:1-14   1 John 3:1-12   John 15:9-12

 

Homily:

 

            The Lord tells us there is a time for everything.  We heard this message from the Book of Ecclesiastes. As we reflect on the meaning of this day, we know it is time to thank God for the many ways Maxine was a blessing for so many people.  We know it is time to commend her to God’s everlasting care.  We know it is time to help lift the burden of each others’ grief.  We rely on the Lord to strengthen our faith in God’s goodness.

            I enjoyed each and every visit with Maxine.  She was always so delightful.  I enjoyed the stories about her nursing career, stories about her family members who meant so much to her, stories about when she sang in this church choir, and stories about her involvement with the Niles Catholic Women’s Club.  I am grateful for all the opportunities to share time with Maxine, including being able to pray for her on Wednesday of Holy Week about twenty-four hours before God called her home on Holy Thursday afternoon.

            All of us give thanks for the time Maxine spent among us.  Her children, siblings, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, in-laws, indeed all family members, neighbors, and friends were blessed to know her.  She was also a blessing to the community through her participation in the Niles Bicentennial Chorus and her volunteering for the Diabetes Association, March of Dimes, and American cancer Society.

            I keep thinking about one of the very last things Maxine reflected about.  When she was last able to converse a little bit, Teddy asked her what she thought heaven was like.  Maxine said that in heaven there are no tomorrows. It is comforting to believe that Maxine is forever able to be with God and with so many people of faith who completed this journey before Maxine completed hers. 

            If we reflect on the message expressed in the First Letter of John, we are reminded that what we shall be is so wonderful that it has not been revealed to us.  We only get glimpses of it now. We believe that God enables Maxine to see Him as He is, and she no longer has to look forward to being delivered from the trials and tribulations brought about by her declining health.  In God’s great love, He enables us to be His own beloved children even now. No need for Maxine to wait for some tomorrow in the future.  And truly, Maxine was a child of God and a child at heart, being the oldest of ten children and spending a lifetime caring for children.  So much of her work in the labor and delivery unit at St. Joseph Hospital for nineteen years before her retirement years ago was devoted to welcoming children to all that this world has to offer.  Now we believe that God offers her a life with Him forever.           

            Sue, Teddy, and Freddie will always cherish memories of a mother who worked midnight shift to enable her children to have a good education.  They will think about their mother’s insistence that chores be completed even before enjoying other activities, in fact -- going to bed!

            Those closest to Maxine will remember how she frequently sent cards to others, how she always had other people in her thoughts.  Maxine was an ever so strong proponent of the belief that actions speak louder than words, and we can be sure this influences and will continue to influence so many things that are done by those who learned from her example.

            Maxine was called home on Holy Thursday afternoon at her home.  As difficult as her passing is for all of us, it is comforting to think of her being able to share a heavenly banquet on such a beautiful feast! 

            The colorful stained glass window to my left tells the story of Jesus eating with His closest friends shortly before He gave His life for them.  How many times Maxine saw this window from her place in the congregation as she prayed with us during happier and healthier times.  Our Gospel message comes from a scene at that Last Supper where the Gospel writer named John reminds us that Jesus taught His disciples to live on in His love. 
We are taking Maxine to her resting place two days after Easter Sunday.  I’ve been told that she really liked the song entitled Easter Parade that was written by Irving Berlin in 1933.  It speaks of a beautiful bonnet, a hat worn by a woman so admired being sung about.  

            Now as we express our admiration for Maxine, our faith tells us that the most important thing Jesus did for us after giving His life on the cross was to rise from the dead.  This was the most beautiful expression of making new life possible for all people of faith. And we can be sure that Maxine trusts that we know this promise of resurrection is the most beautiful expression of what it means for us to celebrate this Easter Season.

            May Jesus the Good Shepherd lead Maxine to the fullness of life and love in His beautiful Kingdom, where all tears are wiped away and the smiles of the saints rejoice with her.

            May this same Lord and Savior enable us to live on in His love each and every time we remember the many beautiful ways Maxine molded and shaped our lives.

 

 

Ann Marie Nuzzi, 1925-2011

 

 

Robert J Lyell Sr, 1928-2011

Born: 09/11/1928 Died:  03/29/2011 Funeral: 04/02/2011
Homily based on readings from Isaiah 65:21-25 & Matthew 20:1-16

 

Homily:

            All of here are praying for Connie, for Bob’s children, grandchildren, our little friend (his great-grandchild Ben), in-laws, members of the extended family, nieces, nephews, and all who were closest to him.  Know that you have our condolences and support.

          Bob was a long-time member of this parish.  On the day after Christmas in the year 1953 here in this church, Bob and Connie exchanged their marriage vows in the presence of Father Oresete Cerbara.  How many times through the years Bob joined us in prayer in this sacred place.   Today, we join together in prayer to thank God for Bob’s life, to express our very real need for comfort and consolation, and to commend Bob to the everlasting care of the Lord.

          How important it is for us to rely on God’s Word to bring us a message of consolation.

          Several days ago, some of us were gathered in Bob’s living room.   We talked about the beautiful words from the prophet Isaiah.  In the 65th chapter of Isaiah, we are invited to a vision of how life can be for God’s faithful people.  We are assured that with God’s help, we can maintain justice and do what is right.  We can be sure that God will not leave the world the way it is with all of its evils, maladies, and heartaches.  Knowing that God enables true goodness to shine forth frees us to be like glowing candles in the present darkness of sin and death that is part of our reality.  We can be ever so sure that the darkness will be finally vanished.

          Thinking about this leads us to consider one of the precious symbols we rely on at our Catholic Mass of Christian Burial.  Near Bob’s casket is the light of the Paschal Candle.  It symbolizes the Light of Christ, ever victorious over every imaginable darkness.  This Lord Jesus guides Bob through the shadow of death to a place of refreshment, light, and peace.  This Light of Christ reminds us all to consider the goodness that we so loved in the many ways Bob touched our lives, and to let this goodness shine through our lives all our days.

This beautiful symbol also reminds us that the Light of Christ obliterates any and all human weakness, sin, and imperfection that was a part of Bob’s human condition, for the Lord in His love makes all things new.  The white pall on Bob’s caskets reminds us that just as Bob was clothed with the love and presence of Christ at his baptism, so is Bob clothed with the love and presence of the Lord for all eternity.

          We also consider the story of the workers in the vineyard as the Gospel writer Matthew told it.  How important it is to focus on the generosity of God.  The Lord spoke through Bob’s life each and every time Bob wanted to enable others to be raised up, and never at the expense of beating someone else down.  You will retell so many stories about Bob’s concern for justice when you reminisce about his eighty-two years of living.  And the Lord blessed your lives with these stories as they happened, and will continue to bless your lives when you are true to the memories of these stories.

          All of us are saddened by the passing of Bob.  His chair in the living room stands empty, but you will be keenly aware that his presence permeates our memories and our hearts.  His love for the Lord and for all of us endures forever. The Light of Christ reflected in His life seeks to shine forth in our lives all our days.

          May Christ comfort us in our sorrows, fill us with wisdom and strength, and let perpetual light shine upon Bob.

May we be consoled in believing that God is ever faithful to His promise to lead Bob to a world filled with the brightness of everlasting love as our love for him and his love for us never ends.

 

Tina Baragona 1915-2011

Born:  01/04/1915   Died:  03/18/2011

Gospel:  John 6:3-15

 

Homily:

 

            How many times Tina and I sat at the table just inside the door at the house on Stepney Street.  You can easily envision the scene. The television would be on, usually loud enough to hear from a long, long distance away.  When I would ask Tina if she minded if I’d turn the television down, she always said that would be okay. The dog Cody (and years ago, good ol’ Max) would greet me.  How often a little great-grandchild or two would be nearby.

          And Tina always had a story or two.  Sometimes there were three or four stories.  She always appreciated the chance to pray together.  I’d give her Communion.  She’d tell me that she loved me.  And she made sure that I’d be willing to come and see her again.

          Memories of gathering at Tina’s table and praying are fond memories for me.  And I will miss her.  All of us have stories about gathering around the table with Tina.  And already, all of us miss her.  We trust in God’s consolation and the support of one another to see each other through.  That is why we gather near God’s table today, to tell stories about Tina, to share memories, to remember that the Jesus who was so very much loved by Tina gathers with us today as we reflect on His promises to welcome Tina to His everlasting care.

          You heard the Gospel chosen today.  When I thought about this Gospel several days ago, I was so very convinced that it was so fitting for Tina.  It features so many people gathered together.  Jesus is there among them and He expresses such deep love for them.  There is a prayer. And the Lord feeds them so generously; just as Tina always wanted to make sure everyone had plenty to eat.  She cooked for far, far more years than most people could even begin to imagine.

          As time goes on, memories of Tina’s beautiful smile, and those gorgeous blue eyes will nourish your souls.  You’ll remember so many happy things about Tina.

          You’ll remember her final trip to Mountaineer.  She really enjoyed that experience such a short time before she went to the hospital.

          You’ll remember the fishing expeditions of years ago.  Who could forget her esteem for BINGO?  Memories of Tina singing will resound in your minds for years to come.

          Just as Jesus taught those He encountered how important it was to serve the needs of others, you’ll think of Tina volunteering at Trumbull Memorial Hospital and with the American Red Cross during happier and healthier times.

 

 All of us are grateful to God for the love she showed as a wife before the Lord called her husband Louis home.  We thank God for the constant love, care, and kindness expressed by her to everyone. Tina was so sincere when she said she would keep you in her prayers.  Let me add that I will always appreciate the prayers she offered for me.  I believe she will continue to pray for us all. 

 

Tina was proud of her Italian heritage, being born in Naples, Italy, and made it a point to impart so many wonderful traditions to her family and friends.  Most importantly, I am sure she wants everyone to remember her as loving us all.

 

I know the long hospitalization was difficult for her and for us all.  We place our trust in the Lord who has delivered Tina from her suffering and is able to welcome her with open arms to a place where there is no more sadness, pain, and suffering.

 

Our vision of faith enables us to trust that Tina has been invited to join her parents, husband, grandson Sergio, brothers and sisters, and every person of faith close to her who completed life’s journey before Tina. May the Lord continue to nourish our lives as we remember Tina so fondly and commend her to the care of the Lord. 

 

John C Zubyk 1926-2011

Born:  May 1, 1926   Died:  March 20, 2011   Age:  84
Funeral:  March 24, 2011

 

            All of us here at OLMC Church extend our sympathy to Rose, her sons John II and Alan, and to Melissa, Charles, and Kaitlyn.  You have been in our prayers since we heard that John was taken to St. Elizabeth Hospital and since we learned of his passing on Sunday.

            With special fondness for the Word of God, we let the Lord touch our hearts through the message of the Gospel that was proclaimed a few moments ago.  Jesus was gathered in this story with His closest friends the night before He gave His life for us all. 
He told them to remain in His love.  He wanted to give them the fullness of joy.  He reminded them that there is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

            All of us pray for the grace to trust that John is embraced by the love of the Lord forever, that John knows no more suffering.  The Lord enables John to know joy beyond what our grieving hearts can begin to imagine.

            We ask the Lord to bless us with many happy memories.  Rose will always cherish the 59 years of marriage she and John shared.  They built their house together.  All of you will remember how John enjoyed polkas, Ohio State University Football, fishing, and joking around.  You’ll remember him listening to the radio as he worked on Saturdays.  He was very talented as a carpenter.

            When we go to the cemetery after this Mass, John will be honored by the Trumbull County American Legion Honor Guard in a special ceremony for his service as a United States Army veteran of World War II. Although John rarely talked about his military experiences, our nation is very grateful for his dedication.

            Here at the parish, we will always cherish how special it was for John and Rose to come to church together so very often. 

            Our faith during this Season of Lent leads us to ponder the steps Jesus took in His final journey to the Cross.  The Stations of the Cross all around the walls of the Church and this large crucifix here in the sanctuary recount that journey of love.  As our hearts and minds walk that journey, we know that the Lord walks with us in our grief-filled journey.  We depend on Jesus to carry us through the reality of our grief.  We trust that John will rise again with Jesus, and that assures us that our grief is not void of hope. 

            May the Lord continue to be with us. May He give us the grace of remembering many happy times with John, and assure us that John is at peace.  The Lord makes it possible for John to be with his brothers, sisters, and all people of faith who completed life’s journeys before John. May our hope that we will see John in the Kingdom of God when our days have passed guide our journeys today and through all our tomorrows, and enable us to live on in the love of the Lord.

 

Lorraine A. Marrara 1951-2011

Born:  January 19, 1951   Died:  March 11, 2011 Funeral:  March 14, 2011
Gospel:  Matthew 11:28-30

 

Homily:

            Jesus told us to come to Him.  We heard these words in the Gospel chosen for today’s Mass of Christian Burial for one loved by God and loved by us all.

            As we ponder Lorraine’s life and trust in the compassion of Christ, we realize that Lorraine answered this call to come to Jesus so very often.

            Lorraine was baptized here in this church by Father Nick Arioli on February 18, 1951.

            This is where she celebrated her First Communion on April 13, 1958.

            Bishop Gregorio Rozman from Slovenia, who visited this parish on October 22, 1958, helped mark a special day for Lorraine when he enabled her and her classmates to share in the Sacrament of Confirmation.  She chose the Confirmation Name Ann.

            Many were the times Lorraine prayed with us here.  All who knew Lorraine are inspired by how she maintained a strong faith even during her most difficult times in life.  She prayed throughout the times people were insensitive to her.  Lorraine earned the Knights of Columbus Scholastic Achievement Award in 1964 when she was a student at Mount Carmel School.  She participated in the May Crowning Ceremonies during her school years.  All of these things enabled her to build such an important firm foundation of faith. Lorraine handled her illness and her dying with a remarkable measure of courage, faith, and readiness to be with the Lord. She also expressed constant concern for her mother and for all others who cared so lovingly for her.

            We think about her journeys through life.  How often she walked up and down Robbins Avenue.  She’d pick up her prescriptions at Troutman’s. Lorraine bought a few items at Pit N Git, always hoping to cash in on the daily numbers.  She’d go to Giant Eagle.  She really enjoyed the chance to be outdoors. 

 

When her health declined and her ability to walk was diminished completely, we came to trust in our hearts that she was still walking with the Lord and we trust that she always will. We trust that she’s walking with her infant sister Jeannie who preceded Lorraine in death.  We trust that she is walking with her beloved father Sam, with Brenda’s mother Juanita Smith who was called home so very recently, and with so many other people of faith who have shown us the way.

 

Occasions like these remind us of how important it is to have the love and support of our families and members of our parish and community.  We bring Lorraine before the Lord with a great measure of love, and we trust that God raises her up to a place of light, refreshment, and peace where there is no sadness, no suffering, and no pain.

Several days ago, Josephine mentioned to me how Lorraine always kept her room cleaned up.  It led me to think about a conversation I had months ago at the hospital when Lorraine first learned about her disease diagnosis and terminal prognosis. 

 

Lorraine so confidently and yet so humbly said that she was ready to meet the Lord in a better place.  It was as if she knew that rooms are not the only places to keep clean, but in the Lord’s great love, He also constantly cleanses our souls so that He might enter there and dwell with us.  Lorraine died so early in the Season of Lent, a Season known as a springtime for the soul.

 

We trust that Lorraine has answered Christ’s call to come to Him.  We trust that the Lord has invited Lorraine to a most wonderful walk.  It is a walk with Him forever in paradise. 

 

At the same time, we ask Jesus to walk with us.  Walk with us in our grief, Lord.  Fill us with your loving presence and compassion.  Brighten the dark days of sadness and sorrow with awareness of your love, the hope that never ends, and the strength only God can give.

 

Left on our own, our burdens are heavy. But sharing them with Jesus and with each other, love lightens the grief and enables us to face the journey together.

May the grace of our memories of Lorraine’s faith inspire us all our days, and give us strength for all of our journeys.

 

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